The King of Wands is the card of leadership, vision, boldness, and decisiveness. The card depicts a king on his throne, holding a wand as his scepter. He looks out into the distance towards his kingdom. He has a vision for his empire, and he is ready to make decisions to expand it. He is full of relentless optimism for the future.
The King of Wands is the zenith of the suit of wands. The King of Wands reminds us that it is important to have a bold vision for your relationships and to be decisive in your decision making. When you know yourself deeply, you will know what the right choice is. You won’t hesitate, because you will be perfectly aligned with your authentic self.
If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the King of Wands, it means they are passionate about starting a new beginning with you. As the visionary of the court cards, their next moves have been planned out. This person would likely want to take the lead in your relationship. If maturity were ever an issue in the past, your person feels confident that they are now in a position and headspace to be in a committed relationship. They have made up their mind about wanting to be with you.
King of Wands as reconciliation would describe a reconciled relationship where there is passion, physical attraction, and great sense of humor between the two partners. The intimacy is great. This person wants a higher level of commitment with you. This is definitely not a rash decision. It was well thought out. They have a clear vision of the future. The relationship will likely move to a higher level of commitment. Though it might start off fast and fiery, don’t worry about it fizzling out. The passion will be long lasting when it comes to the long-term oriented King of Wands.
When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel confident and self-assured. They believe things will work out for the better. This person is planning to take bold action toward you. This person is very attracted to you physically, but the King of Wands won’t use you for a one night stand. This is a mature individual who wants a mature commitment. This person might also want to co-create and build something together with you. This could be a business, or it could mean that they want to start a family with you.
If you’ve recently split up, King of Wands means that even though your ex’s emotions are running high, they are trying to approach your breakup from a mature place. They are trying to control their emotions. They are probably already planning creative ways to get you back. If not, this person may redirect that energy toward building something. They could bury themselves in work or get creative if they’re artistic. They may intellectualize and rationalize what happened.
If you’ve been in separation for a while, King of Wands means they may have grown fonder of you with time. They miss you. They are especially drawn to your personality. They still value you. The physical attraction and passion is still there. This person has matured a lot since your separation, and they are doing well in their social life. The memory of you has left an imprint in your ex’s psyche. They’ve never met anybody like you. They want you back, and you’ll be hearing from them soon.
If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, King of Wands means this person still has a lot of love for you. Things may have gone wrong in your relationship but this is a king, so the energy embodied is a mature one. They might be blunt at times, but they are only trying to clear the air. Don’t take it personally, and take a more logical approach. Your person will want to be the ‘leader’ of the relationship. The advice to you is to co-lead with them to keep the relationship equal and well-balanced.
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If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the King of Wands reversed, it is a sign of extremes. On one hand, your ex may be very forceful in trying to get back together with you. On the other hand, your ex may feel coerced to reconcile with you. Your ex feels powerless either way. This could indicate somebody who is not ready to commit, yet is still guilted into committing. They might view you as a trophy partner, somebody they can show off to people in their social circles.
King of Wands reversed as reconciliation is a sign of conflict. Egos clashing, possessiveness, jealousy, and selfishness are all part of the package. It can be a sign of a volatile relationship. Explosive anger and manipulative tactics are red flags to look out for. In the upright, this King represents leadership qualities, in the reverse position this may indicate being overly controlling. Your ex might want freedom for themselves, but they’re not willing to extend the same freedom to you. Infidelity may be an issue when this card appears in the reverse position. If your partner felt coerced into entering into this reconciliation with you, they could lash out in unpredictable ways.
When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel as though they have lost their vision for your relationship. They feel unsure as to which direction it should go. They feel obsessed with the idea of wanting to possess and control you, while also not being ready for true commitment. There is a fear of missing out, and they may reconcile just because they don’t want to see you with somebody else. They could also lack a vision of what they would like your relationship to be, and end up giving mixed signals.
If you’ve recently split up, King of Wands reversed means this person is disappointed that your relationship didn’t manifest the way they envisioned. This person is stuck within their ego. Talking about reconciliation is not something they are ready to do right now. Don’t be surprised if they lash out into a rebound relationship. The more obsessed your ex is with you, the more they will lash out in unpredictable ways. It’s crucial for you to not take this personally. Let this person blow off whatever steam they need to blow off before approaching them.
If you’ve been in separation for a while, King of Wands reversed means that rather than being seasoned and matured, this person has become cynical and jaded. This person’s memory of you is bittersweet. They still feel a physical attraction toward you, but this person may have negative memories associated with the relationship. This person would never admit that they still think about you. This person might also feel a bit vengeful despite all the time that has passed. While they might be open to a reconciliation, make sure that it is coming from an authentic place of love.
If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, King of Wands reversed means that your relationship is currently very toxic. The two of you often argue with each other in a non-constructive way. Both of you are hurting each other and the relationship. What you need to know is that your partner is coming from a very selfish place. They are not interested in listening to your side of the story. They prioritize themselves. You probably do not have the same vision and goals for the future, and they are not likely to accommodate your plans into theirs. This is your opportunity to really assess if this is what you want.
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For relationships and reconciliation, the King of Wands represents having a bold vision and being decisive in your actions. The King of Wands is the consummate CEO, always guiding the boat forwards. The King of Wands reminds us that we each need to be leaders in our relationships. Co-lead the relationship with your partner, and you will find success together.
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