Moon as Feelings in Love & Relationships (Upright & Reversed)

The Moon is the card of illusion, fear, anxiety, deception, intuition, and the subconscious. The card depicts a full moon in the night sky, positioned between two large towers. The moon is a symbol of intuition, dreams, and the unconscious. Compared to its counterpart the sun, the moon’s light is dim and only slightly illuminates the night. 

The Moon reminds us that every light has a shadow. Not everything in life is clear cut. Relationships will always have ambiguity to some extent. The Moon reminds us to tune into and listen to our intuition. Before our mind knows, we know. Especially when it comes to relationships, listen to your inner voice.  

Upright Moon as Feelings

If you are asking about how someone feels about you, and you draw the Moon, it means that this person has mixed feelings toward you. Their emotions feel complicated to them. They are in a “fog” of emotion. This creates situations that are ripe for misunderstanding. Be wary that not everything is as it appears, even as the truth must come out eventually. This lack of clarity does not bode well, as a good relationship needs solid footing to start out. That being said, if both of you can let the light in, it will give the ground needed to move forward. 

The Moon is also a sign of a lack of subconscious clarity. This person may have baggage hiding in the depths of their unconscious that affects their ability to accept love. Their past relationships may still haunt them. They may have learned the wrong lessons in life, such as believing that they are unworthy of love and affection. If this is the case, know that this person will have to confront these issues on their own. You may want to force it, but the only way a person will change is if they seek out that change on their own.  

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Moon means that this person’s feelings towards you are complicated. Led only by the light of the moon, they cannot currently see things as they truly are. This can be both positive and negative. For example, they might be lost in the passionate throes of new love with you, and it will take time for both of your true selves to be revealed. Alternatively, they are indecisive and cannot make up their mind about what to think about you. In either case, the truth will have to be revealed eventually. Make sure to start your relationship off on solid ground. 

For existing relationships, the Moon indicates that this person has mixed feelings about you. Your relationship has its ups and downs. If you’ve had misunderstandings, you need to do some work to get to the bottom of things. Make sure that you understand their intentions as well as your own. Additionally, see if past relationship baggage is holding either of you back from fully engaging in this relationship. Beliefs such as “I’m unworthy of love” or “Everyone is out to hurt me” can truly sabotage a relationship. The Moon is a sign for you to clear up the fog and to recenter your relationship.  

If you are asking about an old flame or an ex’s feelings about you, the Moon indicates “it’s complicated.” They have positive feelings about you as well as negative feelings about how the relationship ended. It’s not clear to them how they would like to proceed. Until they have the time and space to work on themselves and get to the bottom of what they want out of a love, reconciliation is not a good idea. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Moon signifies mixed feelings. For this person, they do not have a clear cut answer. In their mind, it’s complicated. They have experienced misunderstandings with you in the past, and there may be old attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors that are clouding their judgment in the matter. The only thing that can cut through the fog is the truth, and that may involve hearing things that you don’t want to hear. However, if you are committed to making this work, humbly seek out an open conversation. 

Reversed Moon as Feelings

When the Moon is reversed, it means that this person feels very confused. This is not just about you and your relationship. They are confused about what they want in life. They feel disconnected and cynical. They are unclear about what they want. If you have been having the same fight over and over again, they may feel like they don’t know how to break out of the cycle. They don’t know how to please you, and they don’t know how to please themselves. 

The Moon reversed is also a sign of deception. They do not feel like they can be honest with you. Though your actions may have contributed to this, it is more likely that this inability to be honest stems from their own beliefs and behaviors. That being said, the deception may not come from an unkind place with malicious intentions–it’s more likely that they are deceptive because they are empathetic and do not want to be unkind toward your feelings. However, hiding the truth is ultimately unsustainable and unhealthy. To move forward, you will eventually need to shine a light into the darkness with the truth. 

For singles and those in new relationships, the Moon reversed is a sign of feeling confused about your potential relationship. For whatever reason, they lack faith and confidence in where this is headed. The Moon reversed is also a sign of deception. They are not being completely forthright about the situation, especially if you are looking for exclusivity. A relationship is based on trust, and you’ll need that for a successful relationship moving forward. 

For those in committed relationships, the Moon reversed is a sign of feeling mired in doubt. This person is not being honest with you about something. Sometimes, deception does not have malicious motivations. Your partner could be not telling you the entire truth out of kindness, because they want to spare your feelings. However, hiding the truth is not a long-term solution. The only path forward is to open your communications with each other, to see if you can find common ground. 

If you are asking about an ex’s feelings about you, the Moon reversed means that they feel confused and even deceived about the way things ended. They are feeling psychologically unwell. The end of the relationship has taken a toll on their mental health. They are not in a place to consider reconciliation with you at the moment. The focus for them needs to be on finding their own truth. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Moon reversed is concerning. This person feels confused about how they feel about you. Additionally, the Moon reversed is a sign of deception. Your partner may not be completely honest with you. Are they paying lip-service to commitment, but not showing it through their actions? Do they seem to be avoiding this topic, hoping you will stop bringing it up? Listen not to what someone says, but what they do.  

Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Moon reveals the darker side of lust and desire. In the shadows of a relationship, deception and misunderstandings lie. What is hiding underneath the surface? The Moon serves as a warning sign, urging us to identify and bring the issues out of the dark and into broad daylight. What hides in your own unconscious, affecting your ability to accept love? The Moon is also a sign to listen to your intuition. When your intuition tells you that something is not quite right, listen to it! Tune into your deepest self. 

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