Lovers as a Person (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Lovers is the card of love, relationships, passion, desire, and choices. Ruled by Gemini (the Twins), the Lovers speaks to the duality of unity: yin and yang, masculine and feminine, heaven and earth. The Lovers show that perfect union is possible. You can find your soulmate. 

The Lovers feature Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, with the archangel Raphael looking upon them from above. There is the serpent’s temptation on one side, and burning desire on the other. Raphael unites the couple, as he is the angel of communication. Although the world the Lovers inhabit is not perfect, they are each other’s other half.

Upright Lovers as a Person

If the Lovers appears in a Tarot spread as a person, that means that this person is either generally loving, a player, or someone who is in love with love. They’re also playful, chatty, and humorous. It is astrologically associated with Gemini. Because Gemini is a masculine sign, this card carries a quick, active, and assertive energy. We all have a little bit of both energies expressed in a balanced way, regardless of which gender we identify as. Because this is a Major Arcana card, some of these defining traits make up a major part of their identity. So, for example, being a jokester will play a major role in who they are, or how they view themselves. Note that they may not reveal this side to you at the beginning stages of your relationship, to others, or ever.

For physical characteristics, the Lovers as a person represents someone who is comfortable in their own skin. They will have a very positive view on embracing sexuality. They’re not necessarily tactile people, but they love the human connection that is established through touch and cuddles. Their love language may be touching, hugging, or snuggling. They may particularly enjoy the contact between skin and nature, so they may love hiking and exploring nature. In terms of style, their style will represent a balance between the yin and the yang, feminine and masculine energy.

For emotional characteristics, the Lovers as a person represents someone who believes that all you need is love. Ruled by Gemini, which is the sign of humor and childlike innocence, this person may initially win you over with their humor. They’re always interested in making new connections, and occasionally they see life through rose-colored glasses. Because Gemini is an air sign, they may have a humorous way of expressing their love for you. Their love for you can be familial, fraternal, platonic, or romantic in nature. This person doesn’t have a hateful bone in their body. 

For careers, the Lovers can represent someone who works as a liaison officer, a PR person, mediator, or even a diplomat in the foreign services. Although the Lovers card is officially astrologically associated with Gemini, it is also closely linked to fellow air sign Libra. 

This is somebody who keeps the peace for a living. Although the Lovers card’s two-timing, playerish energy can be a problem in love, at the workplace it is an asset that serves as a facilitator of harmony. This person just wants everybody to get along. In some cases, they may even work as a software developer for a dating app, or as a Tarot reader who specializes in love readings. No matter what they do for a living, one of their main priorities is to ensure that everybody at the workplace gets along with one another. They will even be civil with colleagues they dislike. In their mind this isn’t being “fake,” it’s being an adult and a professional.

The Lovers as a person represents someone who makes you feel loved. This person understands that we are all mirrors of each other. This is why they’re so reluctant to judge. We are one with the Universe. They love with compassion because they make a point of seeing themselves in others, even when they’re not natural empaths. Like the Empress, they will love unconditionally. If you are involved with this person romantically, they will be an excellent lover and friend.

Lovers Reversed as a Person

If the Lovers reversed appears in a Tarot spread as a person, that means that this person is a hater. However, because this is the Lovers card after all, they are not likely to openly express their hate. Expect passive aggressiveness. Their smiley words don’t match their mean, sabotaging actions. They may do this consciously or subconsciously. Because this is a Major Arcana card, some of these traits will be inherent aspects of their identity. Good or bad, nobody is perfect and people can change, if they choose to.

For physical characteristics, the Lovers reversed as a person represents someone who dislikes body positivity. They will tend to shame others for how they look. Alternatively, they may have a very toxic approach to body positivity. For example, they may choose to vilify those who fit into traditional beauty standards rather than celebrating all kinds of body and beauty types. They can be sticklers for using natural products, only celebrating what they deem to be “natural” beauty. This person may be especially judgmental toward those who enjoy body modifications, and they can be super disrespectful of other people’s agency and their rights to their own bodies.

For emotional characteristics, the Lovers reversed as a person represents someone who is emotionally messy. Their love life is a mess. Their platonic relationships are all over the place, and if it weren’t for the fact that they were connected to their family by blood, they would have no connection to them at all. They don’t know how to keep a friendship. If they don’t know how to keep a job, it’s because they have terrible interpersonal skills. Whether it’s self-sabotage or just a bad attitude, their relationships tend to dissolve. Because this card is astrologically associated with Gemini, they may have communication problems caused by developmental disorders. If this is the case, try to have some compassion, be supportive, and encourage them to get professional help.

For careers, the Lovers reversed can represent someone who loves bringing their drama into the workplace. This person is seemingly incapable of maintaining good relationships with those they work with, and they have zero concept of what it means to honor a contract. It’ll be no surprise if this person gets into legal trouble for unprofessional behavior at the workplace, or they may in the future. At the very least, the HR department will be familiar with them and their not-so-cute antics. If they are in a position of authority, they may even have gotten into trouble for abuse of authority and inappropriate behavior at the workplace. They are just very unprofessional all around, and they are unpleasant to work with.

The Lovers reversed as a person represents someone who makes you feel hateful toward yourself. They like to project their insecurities onto others. This is the unfaithful partner who keeps accusing you of cheating, because that’s how they themselves operate. They judge and vilify others for committing the very crimes that they commit. Because the Lovers in reverse is astrologically associated with their shadow side of Gemini, they may make you feel insecure on purpose. For example they may make a point of showing you how popular they are with whichever gender that they’re attracted to make you jealous.

Conclusion

For love readings, The Lovers is a paramount card. The Lovers card speaks of a soulmate relationship with a perfect union under heaven and earth. True love is real, and it is extraordinary. It is not just for the storybooks. This card also teaches us that this love is only possible through excellent communication and a shared understanding. Raphael hangs heavily over Adam and Eve, as their guardian angel of communication. Finally, the Lovers reminds us that just as you want to be loved by another, make sure that you love yourself too. 

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