Four of Wands as a Person (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Four of Wands is the card of marriage, weddings, parties, reunions, stability, home, and belonging. The card depicts a couple dancing beneath a wreath tied between four wands. The card represents the joy and satisfaction that comes with achieving an important life milestone, such as marriage.

The Four of Wands reminds us that life is about celebrating with our loved ones. Our family, friends, and loved ones are our community. They bring us true joy in life. When we are at our weakest, they are there to comfort us. When we are at our strongest, they are there to cheer us onward. There is always a time and place for gathering and having a reunion or a party. 

Upright Four of Wands as a Person

If the Four of Wands appears in a Tarot spread as a person, that means that this person who always celebrates life. They’re always able to see the bright side no matter where they are in life. They’re always able to appreciate what foundation that they have. Whether it’s their rented apartment, the education they have, their emergency fund – they’re grateful for it. They take nothing for granted. Traditional depictions of this card usually illustrate a feast, and for this person every day is Thanksgiving. It is astrologically associated with Venus in Aries. Because Aries is a masculine sign and Venus is a feminine energy, this card carries an interesting mix of active and assertive, yet receptive energy. We all have a little bit of both energies expressed in a balanced way, regardless of which gender we identify as.

For physical characteristics, the Four of Wands as a person represents someone who dresses like somebody who celebrates life. This person isn’t the type to have “special occasion” items in their wardrobe. They’ll wear their “good purse” every day, they’ll wear their designer perfume to a Zoom yoga class at home. They do this because they understand that life is short, and every day on this Earth should be cherished and celebrated. And then when they go to an actual festivities, they still go all out. They eat healthy but also eat well, drink but responsibly, because they also honor their bodies and they want to celebrate life on this Earth as long as possible. Their favorite workouts tend to be fun. The four wands depicted on this card can be seen as a symbol of balance. In some cases, they may enjoy florals and ribbons. 

For emotional characteristics, the Four of Wands as a person represents someone who is very social. They enjoy hosting gatherings and putting together get-togethers. This person is like a hybrid of the Queen of Wands, the social butterfly of the Tarot, and the Queen of Pentacles, the perfect host. They’re kind-hearted and will talk to anybody who they think might be lonely or excluded. This is a type of person who can make you feel at home and welcome even if they themselves are not the host. Having a strong foundation, and prosperity and a happy home is very important to this person. Because the Number 4 in numerology represents a happy domestic life and parenthood, this person may aspire to be a parent if they’re not already. And if they are already a parent, they are an excellent parent.

For careers, the Four of Wands can represent someone who works as a party organizer, somebody who may work in the wedding industry, or somebody who builds foundations. In numerology the Number 4 represents stability and foundations, it also represents the 4th House of home life and motherhood. So, this person might work in construction, they may be an architect, or a civil engineer. Whatever they do, the foundation they build or events that they help manifest will usually mark milestones. Be it a milestone in a person’s life, community, village, city, or family. This card is also one about bringing people together, so they may be managers of a university’s alumni relations department or even reunite families at a DNA testing company. 

The Four of Wands as a person represents someone who makes you feel like life is a party. This person is that “life of the party” type, and they carry those good vibes wherever they go. They always know how to make even the dullest situations fun. If you’re romantically involved with this person, this particular relationship will be significant in your life. Some Tarot readers might interpret the four wands as 11:11, the signifier of Twin Flames.

Reversed Four of Wands as a Person

If the Four of Wands reversed appears in a Tarot spread as a person, that means that this person rains on the parade that is life. They don’t believe that life is worth celebrating. Because this is a Minor Arcana card, some of these traits will not be inherent aspects of their identity. If they are behaving unfavorably, they might just be going through a temporary phase. It may be a behavioral pattern that they can still unlearn, if they choose to. Good or bad, nobody is perfect, and people can use their free will to change for the better.

For physical characteristics, the Four of Wands reversed as a person represents someone who may be overindulgent. Much like the Three of Cups in reverse, this person may really push themselves physically in an unhealthy way. They could party too much and way too hard, they may drink too much, or just overconsume unhealthy substances. Because the Number 4 in numerology is all about foundation, this person may even be malnourished. They may lack the minimum hours of sleep required to properly function. Their wardrobe tends to be practical and functional. They don’t like ornamental accessories. They may dislike florals and ribbons, or wear them excessively. 

For emotional characteristics, the Four of Wands reversed as a person represents someone who may not have their priorities straight. Because numerologically the Number 4 is all about foundations, this person may not be very responsible when it comes to foundational payments such as rent or mortgage, utilities, or car payments. They would rather spend frivolously than save up for an emergency fund. This is the type of person who puts too much emphasis on their wedding over their future marriage. This is your bridezilla. They will do anything to have their dream wedding, completely disregarding the fact that their behavior might put a strain on their marriage once the wedding is over. Alternatively, this person may just party too much or slack off. They take the “YOLO” mindset to an extreme. 

For careers, the Four of Wands reversed can represent someone who struggles to keep a job. They hate every job they’ve ever had. Because the Number 4 in numerology is all about family life and home life, this person may struggle to develop healthy relationships at work. This is a type of person who makes no effort to blend in with their company culture. They have no intention of becoming part of that workplace’s foundation. The shadow side of Venus in Aries is: “I’m only here for the paycheck, but I hate this job.” Sadly, this person also likely never chooses jobs based on their passions, only for the number on their paycheck. They lack loyalty, and they might jump from job to job quite often.

The Four of Wands reversed as a person represents someone who makes you feel like a relationship isn’t built on a strong, balanced foundation. For example, this person may have ulterior motives. They may be with you because they want something from you, maybe clout or finances, while you just want a genuine friendship with another human being. When you can no longer give this person what they want, the relationship will be at risk of dissolving. Because the Four of Wands is often seen as a signifier for twin flames, drawing this card in reverse may be a warning that you’re dealing with a false twin flame or a karmic partner. This person may have commitment issues, or they’re rushing to commit with you for all the wrong reasons. 

Conclusion

For love readings, the Four of Wands represents celebration, weddings, family, harmony and long-term prospects. Where everyone else wants to be, you already are. There is wholeness, harmony, and a sense of belonging here. The Four of Wands reminds us that life is all about celebrating with those we love. Happiness comes from our strongest relationships.

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