Hermit is the card of self-reflection, solitude, introspection, and wisdom. An old man stands alone at the top of a peak, holding a lantern in one hand and his staff in the other. The Hermit shows that being alone is a necessary part of the cycle of life and relationships, because it connects us with our deeper wisdom and true self.
The Hermit is not a traditional “love” card. It’s easy to feel scared when the Hermit comes up in a love reading. Does it mean that someone doesn’t want to be with you? Remember that there are positives and negatives to be found in every card. In love readings, the Hermit asks us to get in touch with and serve our Wise Self. In order to love others, we must first love ourselves.
If you are asking about someone’s intentions towards you, and you draw the Hermit, that means this person intends on focusing on themselves rather than you. The Hermit lives by themselves and centers their thoughts around improving and loving themselves. They intend on learning and loving themselves before they can love you. They intend on completing this period of solitude without you in order to strengthen their future relationships. They have no hard feelings towards you, but instead an intention to gain knowledge and acceptance of themselves.
The Hermit as intentions means that they intend on withholding all thoughts and feelings around you. You will have a difficult time understanding their thoughts and how they feel about you because they will reveal little. They are not selfish, but they do not necessarily care about what others think.
For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Hermit is a sign of them intending to expend little energy and effort in the new relationship, or even finding one. They intend on prioritizing self improvement before taking on the responsibility of caring for someone else. They intend on abstaining from love until they have confidence and love for themselves. Without this, negative feelings of doubt and jealousy will surely present themselves in their future relationships. You should intend on giving the person some time and space.
For existing relationships, the Hermit represents an intention to take some space in order to recenter. They can either intend to do this alone or with you. If they intend on taking some time away, they will let you know. If this happens, you should intend on considering whether or not you want a break. Sometimes, a couple needs time apart in order to grow more deeply in love.
If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Hermit shows that they do not intend on reconciliation. Right now, they intend to completely focus on themselves. They are prioritizing their own self healing right now. They do not think negatively of you, but rekindling your past love is not a priority for them right now.
In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Hermit means that this person’s intentions are both positive and negative for you. They intend on self improvement before commitment which is the foundation of the upright Hermit card. They cannot commit until they feel better about themselves and your relationship. They intend on fixing this through a period of reflection either alone or with you. They do not intend on marriage until they establish complete confidence between you.
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If you are asking about someone’s intentions towards you, and you draw the Hermit reversed, that means this person intends on sinking into a state of loneliness and sadness. Unlike the upright Hermit where the person intends on loneliness for positive improvement of their life, the reversed Hermit means that the person does not intend on being lonely, but nevertheless is because of the relationship. Something you do may make them disconnected with you, putting them in a state of isolation. Ask yourself if something you do in the relationship causes a detachment between the two of you if you want to change their intentions.
The Hermit reversed as intentions means that they could intend to isolate themselves for self-reflection, but then fail and as a result become depressed from loneliness. The Hermit reversed shows every sign relating to losing yourself, disconnection, and abandonment. Either they made themselves a Hermit by accident or something about the relationship makes them feel this way.
For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Hermit reversed is a sign of them intending to reject intimate connection. They have no intention of starting a new relationship with you because they lack the confidence required for intimacy. The thought of loving connection in a relationship scares and worries them. This could stem from an insecurity or past negative relationship experience and rarely correlates to anything about you. They intend on distancing themselves if you show interest. To fix this, they must learn and trust more in themselves to gain confidence.
For existing relationships, the Hermit reversed represents an intention to continue the relationship, but keep their feelings secret from you. Problems in the relationship disconnect you from each other. The person does not intend on addressing or fixing the problems because they lack the capability to do so. Responsibility lies on you to help the person feel less disconnected. The Hermit reversed tests the strength of the relationship by unveiling whether or not you can communicate with each other through this disconnect.
If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Hermit reversed shows that they intend on thinking about reconciliation. Unlike the upright Hermit card where they have no intention of reuniting, the reversed Hermit reveals that the person doesn’t know what to do without you. They are ready to come out of their solitude, and embrace the connection that you once had. .
In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Hermit reversed means that this person’s intentions are scattered. They need help realizing if they want to commit to the relationship or request distance. They intend on caring for you, but also caring for themselves. The decision makes them feel isolated, and they need to relearn their true intentions. You should have no expectations in this situation. They could talk with you about a break in the relationship, and then the next day come back to you.
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For relationships and feelings, Hermit reveals our inner wisdom and the strength of our bond with our Self. In order to love others, we must first love ourselves. It shows that codependency is not love. If we are not careful, closeness can become toxic suffocation. The space for individual growth is necessary for a healthy relationship. If you lean into the wisdom of the Hermit, your relationships will become stronger, more confident, and more fulfilled.
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