Four of Pentacles as How Someone Sees You (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Four of Pentacles is the card of insecurity, jealousy, possessiveness, stinginess, boundaries, and guardedness. This card depicts a man clutching many pentacles close to his body. His arms and feet are locked defensively in a closed stance. He acts as if he believes that someone is going to rob him at any second. He is guarded and does not trust others. 

The Four of Pentacles reminds us that boundaries are important to healthy relationships, but sometimes insecurity can take our boundaries too far. When we have our guard up to the point of paranoia and jealousy, we deprive ourselves of the ability to give and receive love and emotional support. The Four of Pentacles is a reminder that love should be freely given and that possessiveness can destroy relationships.

Upright Four of Pentacles as How Someone Sees You

If you are asking about how someone sees you, and you draw the Four of Pentacles, that means this person sees you as someone they are jealous of and involuntarily attached to. There are definitely elements of toxicity in the relationship. They cannot live without you, but they are jealous and reserved from you. They are very insecure and often think you are cheating on them. Assure them of your love and intention to commit only to them.

The Four of Pentacles means that they see you as someone they need to guard themselves from. They do not feel completely safe with you. Something in them tells them that you will break their heart, so they stay reserved. They wish there were no boundaries because their love for you is so overwhelming to them. They are always on guard for things that can hurt them, and a relationship is one thing they look out for.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Four of Pentacles is a sign that they see you as someone they somewhat fear. It may not be you personally, but the idea of starting a relationship that they fear. Past heartbreaks left them guarded and isolated. They are afraid of pouring themselves out to someone all over again for the possibility of another heartbreak. Take it slow, and assure them that you support them for the long-term even if they do not want to start a relationship. Be kind and understanding.

For existing relationships, the Four of Pentacles means that they see you as someone that makes them feel insecure. They think that you distance yourself from the relationship and seek out attention from other sources. They feel like they aren’t enough for you and this torments them. The relationship has lasted a long time and they cannot think of a life without you. They are insecure yet extremely clingy and needy. These are extremely difficult emotions to deal with and navigate a relationship with.

If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Four of Pentacles shows that they see you as someone that has brought about immense depression in their life. They have not gotten over the breakup and they fear they never will. Reconciliation is certainly possible but maybe not the best choice or the mental well-being of both parties. You both must let go of the fear of relationships that split you apart and now keeps you separated.

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Four of Pentacles means that they see you as someone they cannot marry in their current mental state. They need to do a lot of work on managing their emotions before you decide to spend the rest of your lives together. Emotions have caused a lot of distress in your relationship, and moving forward they must be managed accordingly for a healthy marriage.

Reversed Four of Pentacles as How Someone Sees You

If you are asking about how someone sees you, and you draw the Four of Pentacles reversed, that means this person sees you as someone they can open up to with their love. Unlike the upright Four of Pentacles, this person is ready to let a relationship overwhelm and take over their life. It is all they want. They have no fear and want to literally fall in love. They see and look to you for this love that they strongly desire.

The Four of Pentacles reversed means that they see you as a healing force. All of their past breakups and heartbreaks have begun healing with you. Something about you makes them have a more positive perspective on life and helps lighten the baggage they carry. They have learned how to establish healthy boundaries in a relationship and honest communication.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Four of Pentacles reversed is a sign that they see you as a potential partner. It is definitely more than potential. They deeply desire love and you are in the perfect position to be chosen. They are completely open to embarking on a relationship with you. Being direct about your feelings to your special someone is the best thing to do if you draw the reversed Four of Pentacles. You will be in awe of the results!

For existing relationships, the Four of Pentacles reversed means that they see you as someone they can continue to grow with. You have sorted out each and every of your past disagreements and quarrels. You have nothing but love and positivity for each other. They see you as the perfect person to continue falling in love with and they feel so blessed they met you.

If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Four of Pentacles reversed shows that they see you as not someone to hold a grudge against. They feel the separation was justified. However, they are one hundred percent open to reuniting in love. They still have feelings for you. If this is something you want, simply reach back out to them and they would love to work out your differences.

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Four of Pentacles reversed means that they see you as someone they can commit to marriage with. Their past emotional blockers have cleared and healed. They are ready for marriage. They believe you are the person for them in the once-in-a-lifetime act of marriage.

Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Four of Pentacles represents insecurity and jealousy. While it’s natural to want to be your partner’s special person, it can be counterproductive to take possessiveness too far. This can be a detriment and burden to the relationship. If you find yourself having these feelings, ask yourself where it is coming from and if it is based in reality. 

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