Hermit as How Someone Sees You (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning 

Hermit is the card of self-reflection, solitude, introspection, and wisdom. An old man stands alone at the top of a peak, holding a lantern in one hand and his staff in the other. The Hermit shows that being alone is a necessary part of the cycle of life and relationships, because it connects us with our deeper wisdom and true self. 

The Hermit is not a traditional “love” card. It’s easy to feel scared when the Hermit comes up in a love reading. Does it mean that someone doesn’t want to be with you? Remember that there are positives and negatives to be found in every card. In love readings, the Hermit asks us to get in touch with and serve our Wise Self. In order to love others, we must first love ourselves. 

Upright Hermit as How Someone Sees You

If you are asking about how someone sees you, and you draw the Hermit, that means this person sees you as someone they are not ready to make a commitment with. The Hermit is all about introspection and inner peace. At this point, romance is not on their list of priorities. They are too busy improving themselves and spending time alone. They are currently embarking on a quest to reconnect with their wise mind, their true Self.

The Hermit means that they see you as someone they want to connect with but are too scared to act. This person is timid. They don’t want to expose their real feelings to you. They would rather hide them instead of feeling vulnerable the moment they make it known that they like you. Because of this approach, they often feel alone and scared of meaningful connections.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Hermit is a sign that they see you as someone to whom they cannot give their heart. It’s not because you are lacking or you have inferior qualities. This person wants to spend more time alone. They want to explore their own Self and gain a deeper understanding of what they want in life. Forcing a relationship with them will only end up in a painful breakup. But nothing is set in stone; you may wait for the right moment when they are ready to commit to a romantic relationship.

For existing relationships, the Hermit means that they see you as an important person in their life, but they feel they need some space to seek the truth about themselves. They want to fully uncover who they are and believe that only by soul-searching can they take the relationship to the next level. Spiritual seeking can be done alone or together. You should talk about uncomfortable subjects if you want the relationship to improve. Once you do, your bond will be stronger than ever.

If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Hermit shows that they see you as a part of their past. They don’t necessarily hate you or have bitter feelings toward you. But right now, they only want to focus on bettering themselves. Your ex wants to reconnect with their inner thoughts to grow in all aspects: emotionally, mentally, financially, physically, etc. Reconciliation may not be possible at the moment. But who knows, there might be a chance once they finally are at peace with themselves.

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Hermit means that they see you as a fantastic companion, but they need to do a deeper introspection before they can enter a more significant commitment with you. It’s not because of past mistakes or they don’t love you anymore. It’s more of a soul-searching endeavor that they need for them to find inner peace. This spiritual journey may be fulfilled individually or as a couple. Should you choose to hop on the train, you may need to openly communicate and share the same enthusiasm and passion for reconnecting with your authentic Self. 

Reversed Hermit as How Someone Sees You

If you are asking about how someone sees you, and you draw the Hermit reversed, that means this person sees you as someone they cannot connect with. The disconnection has to do with them being too invested in their self-reflection to the point that it makes them feel lonely and distant. The reversed Hermit represents fear of intimate connection. At first, they enjoyed being in isolation, but right now, they are trapped in their own world. 

The Hermit reversed means that they see you as someone who will hurt them. They are alone because of a past hurt that they have a hard time moving on from. They cannot afford to feel pain again. They think you will only inflict the same negative feelings if they open their heart to you. They want to be stuck in this situation, but it is preventing them from growing and maturing emotionally.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Hermit reversed is a sign that they do not see you as someone they can have a relationship with. The disconnection stems from a wounded past that made them prefer being alone instead of seeking out other’s company. This person could also feel depressed, and such a depression prevents them from building a deep connection with anyone. While you cannot do anything about this, you may reflect on your actions if you have contributed to their behavior towards you. If this is the case, you need to ask yourself what you can do to help them see you in a more positive light.

For existing relationships, the Hermit reversed means that they see you as a partner they have difficulty connecting with. The relationship is disconnected. They may have been seeing you in a negative light for a long time without you noticing. Your partner may have preferred not to bring the issue up because they thought it would just go away. But relationships are all about healthy and open communication. You must address these problems, no matter how uncomfortable discussing them are. Only then can you strengthen the connection and take it to the next phase.

If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Hermit reversed shows that they see you as a lover they are missing. They still have feelings for you. The relationship ending only sent them into a depressed state. They have tried their best to self-reflect but are lonely without you. Once they are done with soul-searching, they may want to reconnect with you.

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Hermit reversed means that they see you as an option. They are not yet sure if you are the one for them or if they are the one for you. They need space and time for a spiritual journey that gives them the answers to their questions. But since they don’t want to part ways, you may need to search for the truth: does your partner want to continue the relationship because of love or convenience?

Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, Hermit reveals our inner wisdom and the strength of our bond with our Self. In order to love others, we must first love ourselves. It shows that codependency is not love. If we are not careful, closeness can become toxic suffocation. The space for individual growth is necessary for a healthy relationship. If you lean into the wisdom of the Hermit, your relationships will become stronger, more confident, and more fulfilled.

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