The Chariot as Feelings in Love & Relationships (Upright & Reversed)

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The Chariot is the card of triumph, success, determination, and action. The Chariot shows a brave warrior standing tall in his chariot. He is all about taking charge and moving forward. He is not about thinking or feeling, but about doing. Although this is a great card to get in a financial or career reading, it bodes more ominously for matters of love. 

The Chariot knows what he wants and how to get it. Although the two sphinxes in the front of the carriage are pulling in different directions, the Chariot has a strength of steel. He pushes them to go his way and to follow his will. 

Upright Chariot as Feelings

If you are asking about how someone feels about you, and you draw the Chariot, that means this person is very clear about what they want. That something might be you. They want to conquer you, and they are willing to do what it takes to accomplish that goal. However, this may also mean that they see you less as a person with feelings and more of an aim to be achieved—as a prize or a trophy. The Chariot is not a very emotional card, as the man in the Chariot is more focused on doing rather than thinking or feeling. Thus, the feelings they have may be more about the thrill of the chase and the excitement of conquest rather than overtures of true love.

The Chariot as feelings means that they feel strong and stubborn in their convictions, whatever that might be. They are as disciplined as they are tenacious. They will not be persuaded easily to do another’s will, or to consider another’s feelings. They feel very self-assured and they are confident in themselves. They may not feel that they need to be in a relationship right now to be happy. This makes the Chariot very attractive to look at and admire from afar, but it also makes it agonizing and painful to be in the Chariot’s way. The Chariot stops for no one. The Chariot only moves forward. 

For singles looking at their own feelings, the Chariot is a sign that you’ve achieved great self love. You know what you want, and you’re ready to get it. If you want to put that drive into dating, that’s great. Just be considerate of other people’s feelings too, and don’t bulldoze everyone in your way, on your quest to find love. 

For singles looking at someone else’s feelings and for those embarking on new relationships, the Chariot is a sign that they feel confident in reaching their goal. This goal could be you, where they feel eager and driven in hot pursuit. They want to conquer you, and they love the thrill of the hunt. While the sparks might be fast and furious right now, who knows how long it will last once the goal is achieved? This goal could also be something else. Perhaps they have a single-minded focus on their career, and this moment right now is just a drive through. Either way, the Chariot is not a very romantic card, but this prospect could be very fun in the moment. 

For existing relationships, the Chariot represents determination. You will need to assess your own relationship history and the context of the surrounding cards to determine what kind of goal this is. It indicates that your partner is more interested in doing than thinking or feeling. Your partner’s feelings may be very selfish. At this time, they want to achieve their own aims, and they may not be the most considerate of your feelings.  

If you are asking about an ex or an old flame’s feelings about you, the Chariot indicates that they feel that they are moving on. Chariot is all about movement forward, not about looking back. Though they enjoyed the time you spent together, that moment has passed. This can be very hurtful, especially if you want a reconciliation or to get back together. However, see if you can channel some of that Chariot energy for yourself. Enjoy the now, and look out for yourself, because you are worth it.

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Chariot as feelings needs to be read in context. It could be that proposing to you is their goal, in which case, you can expect a ring soon. On the other hand, if they seem preoccupied with other matters—perhaps other goals and achievements, a deeper commitment is not on their mind, because they need to develop themselves first. Ask yourself to see which case rings most true for you. 

Chariot Reversed as Feelings

When the Chariot is reversed, it indicates that movement is blocked. The person in question feels directionless and stuck. They are afraid to go back as much as they are afraid to move forward. They are filled with fear of the unknown. They doubt themselves as much as they doubt others. They are worried that any action they take will lead to a result where they feel even more out of control, so they are at a complete standstill right now. They are taking a timeout right now.

The Chariot reversed can be a sign that the person feels micromanaged and demoralized. They no longer feel in charge of their own destiny. They feel beaten down by negativity and criticism. The confidence of the Chariot upright has been turned upside down. They feel lost in the chasm of their own insecurity. This often has to do with external circumstances that you have no control over, but can also speak to a situation being caused by the dynamics of your relationship. Ask yourself which resonates the most with you. 

The Chariot reversed can also mean that the person feels overly aggressive and reckless. Instead of going on one straight path, they feel full of road rage and are just going haywire, all over the place. They cannot think or feel about anyone other than themselves right now. But unlike the upright Chariot, this is not coming from a positive place of self-confidence and knowing what one wants; these selfish actions are coming from a negative source of wanton destruction. 

For singles and those in new relationships, the Chariot reversed as feelings is a sign for you to move on. You can’t control how someone else feels about you. You can’t move someone forward if they do not want to be moved forward. If this person ever becomes unstuck in their own fears and insecurities, that’s great. They will come to you, and you won’t need to chase them. But if not, you don’t need to wait for them. There’s no need for you to be stuck in the mud as well. 

For those in committed relationships, the Chariot reversed as feelings means that your partner feels stuck in a rut. This negativity may not be caused by you, and you should not project yourself as the source of their ills. Their feelings and worries are selfish in nature, and they don’t have the energy to think beyond themselves right now. On the other hand, this rut could also be a rut in your relationship. Ask yourself if you have had overly harsh words with your partner. Have you micromanaged them in the past? Do you insist that things are always done your way? If this is the case, you know what the issue is, and you can only resolve it by doing better. Show that you are sorry through your actions, not your words. 

If you are asking about an ex’s feelings about you, the Chariot reversed means that they have very mixed feelings. They don’t want to go back to what you were. They have no intention of getting back together and reconciling. Yet at the same time, they do not want to move forward, and have no intention of letting you go either. If you find yourself in this sticky situation, be confident in the fact that you are not responsible for their choices. You are only responsible for yours. Don’t let your heart get hurt because someone else is being selfish with your feelings. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the reversed Chariot indicates a no. They are stuck in their lives, and they do not want to move forward. At the same time, they are content to have the situation stay as it is, because they have no desire to end your relationship either. If you know that you want things to move along, know that you will have to be the one to move in either direction. If someone cannot take your feelings into account as well, that’s not someone who you want to be your life partner. You do not have to be codependent; you can make your own decisions. 

Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, The Chariot can often be a tough card to swallow, because so often it says what we do not want a reading to say. However, there is good in every card. You can find the good in the Chariot by channeling its confidence and self-love into your own life. This energy can go in a very positive direction if you let it. Let it make you stronger, faster, and more dazzling in your own gorgeous attractiveness. 

If you find yourself needing further clarity in your relationship matters that go beyond reading for yourself, Sibyl offers unlimited tarot readings on love & relationships, as a neutral and objective third party.