Death as Reconciliation (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

Death is the card of transformation, change, and rebirth. Although it has a bad reputation (made worse by B-horror movies), Death is actually one of the most positive cards in the Tarot! Death sits upright on his horse, ushering in a new era. Without winter, there is no spring. Death is the other side of life, making rebirth possible. 

Death reminds us to let go of what is not serving us. When we let go of what is no longer healthy, we open ourselves to positivity and possibility. When one door closes, another opens. Similarly, Death signals that a major phase in your life is ending, but another is starting. When we lean into its energy, we can let go of the past and focus on our present and our future. 

Upright Death as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how someone feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Death, it means they are claiming the change, and they are ready to make a final decision on the matter. They are ready to make a significant change, though it can be scary for both of you. This can sometimes be a “negative” change. Perhaps they realize that your relationship dynamics are unhealthy and not worth a second chance. Other times, this is a “positive” change. Perhaps they are ready to try again. Either way, the best course of action is to embrace this change.

Death as reconciliation is a sign of being ready to let go of what held your relationship back previously, and embrace what a new relationship with you could look like. Before a new version of your relationship can be reborn, the old one must die. Your ex is ready to focus on their future, and it may very well include you in it. 

When your person thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel ready to let go of their previous baggage and traumas to move forward. Despite their fear, they are motivated and eager to embrace uncertainty and start a new chapter of their life. This new chapter may include you, or it may not, depending on the context. 

If you’ve recently split up, Death indicates that your ex’s feelings for you are changing. They may believe that meeting you was a life-changing experience for them but they are now entering a new chapter of their life. This could be good news for establishing a relationship with you and taking it to the next level. On the other hand, their feelings for you may have shifted quickly in the opposite direction.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Death means that your ex has accepted the end of the relationship. With one end comes a new beginning, your ex is relishing the change. Rather than looking back, your ex is looking forward, and you should do the same. Even if reconciliation is possible, this change will not return your relationship to its previous state.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Death signifies that this person is ready for a major change. If you’ve been stuck in emotional dynamics that aren’t working, it could mean they are considering ending the relationship. Especially if they’ve tried reconciliation in the past, they may realize that it just isn’t working. Alternatively, they may be accepting that change is required, which will benefit the relationship. Whatever the case may be, things will no longer be as they were. 

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Reversed Death as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how someone feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Death reversed, it means that your ex is strongly opposed to change, and they do not want to move forward with reconciliation. Your ex feels stuck and stagnant. Even though they miss you at times, they are unwilling to do what is necessary to move forward because it is extremely frightening to them. 

Death reversed as reconciliation is a negative sign. Your ex feels like it just wouldn’t work, even if they tried again. They know that we sometimes stay with people because we are afraid of being alone. They’ve considered it, but they feel like the relationship between you is better off where it is, with the chapter closed. 

When your person thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel entangled and trapped with negativity. They don’t want to go back to a relationship that has passed its expiration date. To them, they feel like this would be a change in the negative direction for both of you.

If you’ve recently split up, Death reversed is a sign that your ex does not want to reconcile with you. Your ex has already made a change, and your ex is resistant to changing things up again. They feel like things are over between you, and there are other things that both of you should concentrate on right now. 

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Death reversed means they’re having a hard time moving on, but they won’t do anything about it. Rather than embracing change, they are constantly second-guessing themselves. If your relationship ended because of interpersonal conflict, they have not yet done the difficult work of looking in the mirror and addressing the underlying issues. They are stuck in the past and are unwilling to do what it takes to break the cycle. Reconciliation is an option because it is something that they think about, but they don’t want to initiate it. As they are currently, it won’t work out. For reconciliation to be healthy, this person must let go of the past and embrace a growth and transformative mindset.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Death reversed signifies the feeling of being trapped in a committed relationship. Your partner does not want to move forward, but they are scared of moving on. They may intend to stay, but not out of genuine commitment, but because they feel obligated and are afraid of being alone. Examine what is motivating your relationship. Something needs to change if it is coming from a place of fear rather than love. An open, honest conversation can work wonders in this situation.

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Conclusion

For relationships and reconciliation, Death reveals the power of transformative change. For the end of every cycle comes the beginning of another. In order to grow, we must shed beliefs and behaviors that are no longer serving us. Death can mean the literal end of a relationship. Equally, it can mean the end of one phase in your relationship and beginning of another. There is no life without Death. Embrace the transformative energy of this card to feel radically empowered. 

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