Five of Cups as Feelings in Love & Relationships (Upright & Reversed)

The Five of Cups is the card of grief, loss, sadness, and disappointment. This card shows a man crying over three knocked down cups. He is so absorbed in his loss that he doesn’t see that he has two upright cups behind him. He is missing the opportunities that are still available to him. 

The Five of Cups reminds us that grief is a natural part of life. It is normal to grieve over our disappointments and failures. Challenges and losses are part of the journey. However, it is important to not be so wrapped up in the negative that we do not see the positive in our situation. The Five of Cups reminds us to authentically grieve, but also to see how we can use this moment as a learning opportunity to move forward.

Upright Five of Cups as Feelings

If you are asking about how someone feels about you and you draw the Five of Cups, it means that this person is feeling sad. They are in a period of mourning and loss right now. They are feeling in pain. They are so deep within their feelings that they are finding it very difficult to look towards the positives at the moment. They are overlooking what is still salvageable and what has survived.

They may also be feeling disappointed and remorseful. They are filled with regret. Perhaps they made a big mistake, and they know it. They are very focused on how truly sad they feel about it. They have not yet gotten to the stage where they are thinking about how to fix it.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Five of Cups means that this person is feeling sad and disappointed right now. Perhaps things started off on the wrong foot, or they are very self-conscious about how all of their actions are perceived by you. Or maybe they are just going through a lot right now. In any case, they are having a hard time staying positive. Talk with this person to get on the same page with them. Sometimes, all they need is a person to listen. 

For existing relationships, the Five of Cups indicates that this person is grieving right now. They are in pain, and they are feeling very deep inside their emotions right now. If they did something to hurt you and the relationship, they are feeling deeply remorseful. If you said something to hurt them, they are feeling very depressed right now. They are in a negative mindset right now. Give them the time and space they need to grieve.  

If you are asking about an old flame or an ex’s feelings about you, the Five of Cups indicates that they feel sad and remorseful about how your relationship ended. They are taking it very hard, and they are also being very hard on themselves. Because they are so focused on their feelings of pain right now, they are not yet at a stage where they are thinking about how to fix it. If you are wondering if it is possible to get back together or reconcile, know that it is possible once they get to the stage of thinking about how to fix it. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Five of Cups shows that there are some emotional issues that you and your partner have to work through first. Your partner is carrying grief, loss, and disappointment with them. Work through this with open and honest communication and you’ll be ready to take your relationship to the next level. 

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Reversed Five of Cups as Feelings

When the Five of Cups is reversed, it means that this person is feeling like they are ready to let go of their past pain and suffering. Whatever resentments and disappointments they had been holding onto, they are now ready to let go. They are coming to terms with their grief, and they are ready to let it go and move on. Instead of focusing on the past, they want to focus on their present and future. 

This person is also starting to understand what they can change and what they cannot. Within the five stages of grief, they are coming to a place of acceptance. They are no longer sad, angry, or bargaining. They have surrendered to what is. Their inner world has become a place of calm. They are looking forward to the future. 

For singles and those in new relationships, the Five of Cups reversed is a sign of feeling ready to let go of the past and enter a new relationship. This person had a lot of baggage that they were carrying from their past. At one point, they were incredibly distraught over it. However, they are now at a place where they are ready to let it go. They are ready to explore their future. This is a good sign for the start of a new relationship, because no one likes having to deal with a partner’s past baggage.

For those in committed relationships, the Five of Cups reversed is a sign of feeling like they’ve worked through some of the issues that you’ve been facing as a couple. Whatever resentments and disappointments they had been holding onto from the past, they are now letting it go. Their eyes are turned towards the future. This is a good sign for your relationship. Every relationship has things that a couple has to work through, and there are often ebbs and flows. You’ve made it past the hump.  

If you are asking about an ex’s feelings about you, the Five of Cups reversed means that they have let go of their pain and they are ready to move on. They had been holding onto so much grief, but now they are ready to let it go. If you are asking about whether a reconciliation is possible, it is only possible if your ex has decided that they see you fitting into their future.  

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Five of Cups reversed means that your partner is ready to start looking at your future. Whatever problems you were having in the past, they’ve let go of it. Their heart is open to seeing what the future holds for you. This is a good exploratory phase of your relationship, where you can talk about what you need and make sure that you are both on the same page.  

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Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Five of Cups represents grief and loss. These challenges are a normal part of life and any relationship. It is not the fact that we have grief and loss that matters, but how we respond to it. The Five of Cups reminds us that we can turn our most difficult moments into learning opportunities. 

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