Five of Cups as Reconciliation (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Five of Cups is the card of grief, loss, sadness, and disappointment. This card shows a man crying over three knocked down cups. He is so absorbed in his loss that he doesn’t see that he has two upright cups behind him. He is missing the opportunities that are still available to him. 

The Five of Cups reminds us that grief is a natural part of life. It is normal to grieve over our disappointments and failures. Challenges and losses are part of the journey. However, it is important to not be so wrapped up in the negative that we do not see the positive in our situation. The Five of Cups reminds us to authentically grieve, but also to see how we can use this moment as a learning opportunity to move forward.

Upright Five of Cups as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Five of Cups, it means that they are mourning. They are in so much pain, and the positives just seem so far away right now. They are trying to decipher what is still salvageable and what part of them has survived. Right now, they just need some time because they are in deep, deep pain.

Five of Cups as reconciliation is a sign of regret. Your ex has made a big mistake, and they know it. They can definitely fix it, however, they are so lost in their grief. They are being very hard on themselves at the moment. They are so focused on the pain that they aren’t yet at the stage where they can think about how to fix it. They are very disappointed in themselves. They can’t believe how they let themselves make this mistake. 

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel self-conscious. This is another case of someone being lost in their own feelings and head, and not in a good way. They have reflected on your relationship, and they feel so incredibly sorry for the things they did to hurt you. They are stuck in a negative mindset right now and the best you can do is give them time, space, and support from afar. Let them grieve and work through their emotions because this is the path that will get them from point A to point B.  

If you’ve recently split up, Five of Cups means that your ex feels sorry about the way things ended. They aren’t happy with your breakup and they feel so sad that you’re gone. This breakup has really hit them hard. Reconciliation is possible, but only after they pull themselves out of this negative mindset. They need time to get comfortable and get to a point where they are no longer grieving but are determined to win you back. 

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Five of Cups means just give your ex more time. They need more time to get to the stage of thinking about how to fix things. They are having a hard time seeing the positive things right now so if you want to speed up the process, try having a talk with them and let them know that you forgive them for whatever they have done.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Five of Cups means that there are some emotional issues that you and your partner have to work through before continuing. Your partner is carrying so much pain, disappointment, and loss in them, and you really need to get them to open up to you before it gets too heavy for them to bear. Share the burden. After all, you’re in a relationship, and supporting each other is essential. Show them that you are there for them and are willing to share the burden. Establish open communication, and your relationship can last for a long, long time. 

Reversed Five of Cups as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Five of Cups reversed, it means that your ex is coming to terms with their grief. They have cried their tears, but they are now ready to wipe them away and move on. They are ready to finally let go of the past that has been haunting them and focus on their present and future. Whatever grudges and pain they were holding on to are gone now.

Five of Cups reversed as reconciliation is a sign of moving on. Your ex is no longer beating themselves up over their mistakes. They have realized that there are just some things they cannot change, and that’s okay. They are no longer angry or sad. Basically, they’ve already gone through all the stages of grief, and they are now at the acceptance stage. Their mind has found serenity. Their thoughts are no longer tearing them apart. 

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel that they are ready to let it go. By letting go of the past, it also means letting go of you. The pain they kept to themselves after your breakup no longer haunts them and they are ready to move on to bigger and brighter things. Reconciliation is possible, but only if they see a future with you in it. It’s still highly possible that they do not see you in their future and are more than content to leave you in the past. Don’t take this negatively though, your ex has already let go of any hard feelings. They are doing this from a place of self-love.

If you’ve recently split up, Five of Cups reversed means that their eyes are turned to the future and the present. They are excited to finally live a life without all that pain weighing them down. The best thing for you to do right now is move on with your life as well because there is no guarantee that reconciliation is happening. Again, it is possible, but nothing is set in stone.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Five of Cups reversed means that your ex probably doesn’t see you in their future. Enough time has passed that they probably feel like they’re better off without you. Let your ex continue to find their way, and don’t be too hung up on reconciling. They’ve let go of the past, and it’s time for you to do the same. 

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Five of Cups reversed means that you and your partner have had your fair share of highs and lows in your relationship. It may feel like there were a lot more lows than highs recently, but don’t worry, because this card signifies that you’ve finally made it past the worst. Your relationship still has a lot of things to work through. However, your partner is no longer holding grudges. They are ready to start over with a clean slate. This is a great sign for you to keep going and stay together because things are only going to look up.

Conclusion

For relationships and reconciliation, the Five of Cups represents grief and loss. These challenges are a normal part of life and any relationship. It is not the fact that we have grief and loss that matters, but how we respond to it. The Five of Cups reminds us that we can turn our most difficult moments into learning opportunities. 

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