Five of Pentacles as Reconciliation Tarot Card Meaning Sibyl Tarot

The Five of Pentacles is the card of hardship, loss, isolation, abandonment, struggle, and alienation. The card shows two people walking through icy wind and snow. Both of them are dressed in rags, and they are clearly struggling. Behind them is a church where they can seek shelter, if only they would go inside. 

The Five of Pentacles reminds us that struggle and loss is part of the process. It is part of life, and often, it’s part of our romantic relationships as well. From our struggles, we learn how to become better partners and how to choose better partners for ourselves. This is a reminder that even when things look negative, we can still take away with us the positive: the lessons we’ve learned.   

Upright Five of Pentacles as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Five of Pentacles, it means they feel hopeless and left out in the cold. They are lonely and very pessimistic. Your person could be pessimistic that you’ll ever take them back. On the other hand, your person could feel pessimistic that a reconciliation would work out. They might think that nothing they do is right or good enough. Your ex might even have clinical depression.

Five of Pentacles as reconciliation is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You feel a sense of isolation, even when you are near each other. Communication could be an issue. Even though the two of you are trying to work things out, they feel your relationship is always at a low point. Something is affecting their self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Try being supportive and less critical toward your partner. They are making their best effort to help heal this relationship and it is affecting their mental health.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel longing and hopelessness at the same time. They wish they could work something out to make it work, but they feel “shut out” of your life. Your ex isn’t sure if they want to get back with you as they feel inadequate. Your person could feel as though they need to get their finances in order before trying again. They need to heal some issues of self-worth and abandonment issues for this to work out. Give them time and encouragement.

If you’ve recently split up, Five of Pentacles means they feel lonely and isolated from you.

They’re processing being away from you, no longer part of your life. This breakup shattered their self-esteem, sense of self-worth, and their sense of self. Perhaps they’d gotten used to seeing themselves as one half of a unit. They’re finding it hard to cope now that they’re alone. Your person is in despair, anxious, and feels lost, especially if they thought you had future plans together. They need help and support coping, but may be too prideful to ask for assistance.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Five of Pentacles means they still feel sad about what happened between the two of you. One the one hand, it pains them to no longer be part of your life. But on the other hand, they’re unsure if reuniting with you would ever work. They’re beginning to come to terms with the idea that they could never fit into “your world.” If you wish to reconcile, perhaps you would need to reach out first to reassure them.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Five of Pentacles means you need to work on connecting with each other. Foster open, honest, but gentle communication with your partner. Perhaps you feel financial factors are getting in the way of a higher level of commitment. Your partner does not want the relationship to end and be left in the cold. But they are also not optimistic about this relationship working out for the two of you. Perhaps you both feel “isolated” from each other because you’re busy with your lives. Dedicate some time to heal the relationship.

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Reversed Five of Pentacles as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Five of Pentacles reversed, it means they are getting out of a period of depression. Your person may have been in despair but they are healing. They’re coming out of a mindset of pessimism and they’re seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. If finances or stability was an issue before, they’re feeling more stable now. They’re not fully healed, but their belief that a reconciliation might work out has been restored.

Five of Pentacles reversed as reconciliation is a sign of a healing relationship. Both of you have been through so much grief and despair in the past. Now things are looking up for your future together. If stability and finances was ever an issue, your situation will improve. The communication between you is improving. Both of you are addressing any issues in a mature way. No more isolation and distance.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel an improvement in their mindset or circumstances. If they were not ready before, they are ready now. External circumstances that blocked your relationship will no longer be an issue. Their self-esteem and mental health has seen some healing. They are willing to give your relationship another try.

If you’ve recently split up, Five of Pentacles reversed means they are slowly healing from the pain. Your breakup hit them hard, it made them feel like they lost everything. They were going through a post-breakup rough patch, but now they’re ready to move forward. Your ex is looking to bring back some stability in their life. This can be with you, alone, or with somebody new. Who they chose to build stability with will depend on whether they think your relationship can heal.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Five of Pentacles reversed means your ex has risen from their lowest point. The end of your relationship was a difficult period in their lives that brought them a lot of pain. In the past, losing you may have even depressed them. They’ve moved past their “dark night of the soul” period and have done their shadow work. Your ex has healed. If they’re single, you could ask them if they’re interested in reconciliation. However, be aware that they could just want to move on.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Five of Pentacles reversed means both of you still have hopes to work things out. The two of you have gone through the worst, and you can only go up from here. Communications will improve, as will any external factors impacting your stability. This might even lead to a higher level of commitment, but take it slow. Both of you see potential in this relationship’s future. You’re both determined to heal this relationship together.

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For relationships and reconciliation, the Five of Pentacles represents hardship and loss. Though it is often a difficult pill for us to swallow, we often learn the most important lessons through our struggles and grief. Know that this is not permanent, and it is just part of the journey. Better times are ahead. 

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