Five of Wands as Reconciliation Tarot Card Meaning Sibyl Tarot

The Five of Wands is the card of conflict, tension, competition, and clashes of ego. The card depicts five men all armed with wands fighting each other in a competitive battle. These men are rivals, and they are duking it out to see who can come out on top. This can either come from intense conflict or good-hearted competition, depending on how you look at it.

The Five of Wands reminds us that conflict is a part of life. Conflict cannot be avoided forever. Conflict comes up in every relationship, good and bad. It is not conflict itself that causes issues, but how we handle it. The Five of Wands reminds us that we can choose how we handle conflict. We can choose to do this with hostility, or we can choose to do this with grace and kindness.

Upright Five of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Five of Wands, it means your ex is feeling quite conflicted about whether or not they should make the next move. They miss you and feel quite passionately toward you, but they also recognize that there are unresolved issues and feel that neither of you are willing to compromise. They are not particularly optimistic about finding a resolution. They don’t feel that they can compromise to make the relationship work. The Five of Wands could also indicate strong sexual tension and craving intimate moments with you.

Five of Wands as reconciliation is a sign of lingering, longstanding conflict and constant bickering. This card may indicate a relationship in which there are too many irreconcilable differences to sustain the relationship. This could be an on and off relationship. You may have attempted to work things out with this person multiple times. If you draw this card, it advises you to dive deep to address issues in your relationship. One or both of you may perceive the other as a bully or even as being abusive. Perhaps counseling or couples therapy might help.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel strong sexual tension. However, this person may be holding back even though they miss you. They believe reconciliation with you will lead to further conflict and competition. Perhaps you received a lot of attention from others which led to your ex frequently becoming jealous. Your ex wants to avoid having to go through that again. They may dread having to deal with external influences, such as family members and mutual friends.

If you’ve recently split up, Five of Wands means your person may be feeling quite resentful about the reason for your breakup. If the split was justified and you broke up on reasonable grounds, your person may be feeling very jealous at the thought of you potentially moving on or having a new partner. They’re definitely not over you, but make sure that intentions to reconcile are coupled with a well thought out plan on how to restore the relationship. Work on addressing and resolving past issues to prevent a vicious cycle of on-again-off-again relationships.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Five of Wands means this person has come to terms with the fact that your differences are irreconcilable. If enough time has passed, this person could be taking a quieter, more neutral, and distanced view that enables them to see things from your viewpoint. That being said, they may not be open to any possibility of reconciliation. If you co-parent, this person may be keeping things civil for the sake of your children, but they realize that your core conflicts cannot be resolved.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Five of Wands means your partner loves you despite the conflict. They are fighting to keep you as much as they fight when they disagree with you. Tension in your relationship may be inflamed by outside influences or circumstances that you have very little control over. This also could be a relationship where one party feels like they have to constantly compete with other people over the other party’s affections. It is up to the two of you to see whether or not this is something that you can work out.

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Reversed Five of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Five of Wands reversed, it means regardless they feel conflicted about it, but are also avoidant. They may very well be aware that there are major issues that need to be addressed before a successful reconciliation. However, your ex is dreading the idea of having these difficult conversations with you. This may be a situation where you feel there is an enormous elephant in the room, leading to frustration on both sides.

Five of Wands reversed as reconciliation is a sign of going through the motions of “reconciling” without necessarily dealing with issues that need to be addressed. This could be a relationship in which there is a constant sense of unspoken tensions, resentments, and avoidance of discussions that need to be had regarding core issues or values. As a reversal, this card can speak of passive-aggressiveness or over-aggression, as opposed to healthy, level-headed, and constructive communication. The Five of Wands asks you to ask yourself whether the relationship has become too toxic. Is it worth it? What can be done to direct the relationship toward a healthier dynamic?

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel conflicted as to whether to make a move toward reconciliation at all. Your ex could be reluctant to have difficult conversations that need to be had in order for a reconciliation to move forward and healing to happen. The Wands suit is also known for its prideful energy, which can also get in the way. If your ex knows that an apology needs to be made or an acknowledgement of past wrongdoings is required, their ego and pride could be getting in the way of any chance of a healthy relationship.

If you’ve recently split up, Five of Wands reversed is a good indicator of resentment or even outright hostility. It would be best that you avoid contacting this person for the time being. Give them time to cool down. Contacting them in the near future might not be the best course of action to take. Your ex could be more than a little argumentative. On the other hand, this card may also speak of their unwillingness to address important issues or acknowledge your grievances.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Five of Wands reversed means your person is getting over past conflict. They no longer feel triggered by the thought of the arguments that you’ve had in the past. It could be that this person has decided to let bygones be bygones. There is no guarantee that this person will be open to reconciliation. If you are interested in gauging whether this person might be open to reconciliation, the best approach would be to communicate with this person in a calm, civil, and neutral manner.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Five of Wands reversed may indicate a polarity of extremes. This ranges from giving each other the silent treatment to exploding in bursts of wild anger. Neither of these extremes are constructive ways of resolving differences. This card advises you to find a mediator. Whether it’s a neutral friend, a family member, or a professional, find someone who can assist and facilitate healthy and productive communication between you. Don’t be afraid to leave toxic relationships.

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For relationships and reconciliation, the Five of Wands represents conflict. Conflict is not a bad thing in itself, and it is present in every relationship. It is not conflict that is the problem, but how we deal with conflict. There are positive and negative ways to resolve conflict. The Five of Wands reminds us that we have a choice in how we communicate with others. We can either be honest and compassionate, or we can be avoidant and passive aggressive. We decide how we react to a situation.

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