Four of Pentacles as Feelings in Love & Relationships (Upright & Reversed)

The Four of Pentacles is the card of insecurity, jealousy, possessiveness, stinginess, boundaries, and guardedness. This card depicts a man clutching many pentacles close to his body. His arms and feet are locked defensively in a closed stance. He acts as if he believes that someone is going to rob him at any second. He is guarded and does not trust others. 

The Four of Pentacles reminds us that boundaries are important to healthy relationships, but sometimes insecurity can take our boundaries too far. When we have our guard up to the point of paranoia and jealousy, we deprive ourselves of the ability to give and receive love and emotional support. The Four of Pentacles is a reminder that love should be freely given and that possessiveness can destroy relationships.

Upright Four of Pentacles as Feelings

If you are asking about how someone feels about you and you draw the Four of Pentacles, it means that this person is feeling insecure, clingy, and jealous. They are scared of losing you, but this fear is coming from within themselves. 

This person may also be feeling guarded. They are scared of being hurt, and they are afraid to let anyone else in. This may actually cause the clinginess and jealousy mentioned above. They may still be holding onto past hurts and past pains, projecting them onto your relationship. These things must be resolved in order for the two of you to have a healthy relationship. 

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Four of Pentacles means that this person is feeling guarded and insecure. They are scared of being hurt, and they haven’t fully let go of their past baggage yet. This is making them feel needy, clingy, and jealous. They may be feeling scared of losing you, but this fear is coming from their own insecurities. To move the relationship forward, they will need to do the shadow work of letting go of their insecurity.  

For existing relationships, the Four of Pentacles indicates that this person feels insecure in your relationship right now. They feel needy, clingy, and jealous. If there was infidelity in your relationship, their feelings could be based in reality. If not, it is more likely that they are projecting past hurts and past pains onto your relationship. This is something that they will need to figure out if they can let go of, if they want to move forward. 

If you are asking about an old flame or an ex’s feelings about you, the Four of Pentacles indicates that they feel depressed about the breakup, even if they try their best not to show it. To the world, they present a guarded front. However, inside they are full of insecurity and neediness. Reconciliation and getting back together will only be possible once they have let go of that fear. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Four of Pentacles is a sign that your partner still has some emotional work to do before they are ready. To fully embrace their future, your partner first has to let go of their past. They must release the insecurity that they are still holding onto in order to be open to better things. 

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Reversed Four of Pentacles as Feelings

When the Four of Pentacles is reversed, it means that this person is feeling like they are finally open to new love. They were holding onto a lot of past baggage and insecurities, but they have finally come to a place where they are ready to let that go. They are ready to move forward into the future. 

This also is a sign that this person is healing. They’ve done a lot of shadow work, and they’ve unblocked their energy flow, healing what had previously hurt them. They are moving forward rather than backwards. Far from being guarded, they now know how to establish good and healthy boundaries.

For singles and those in new relationships, the Four of Pentacles reversed is a sign of feeling open to new love. Previously, they had still been holding onto their past baggage. But given enough time, they have finally come to a place of healing. They are ready to let go of the past and focus on their future with you. This is a good sign for any budding relationship.  

For those in committed relationships, the Four of Pentacles reversed is a sign of feeling like they are ready to let go of past resentments. You’ve had your share of disagreements in the past, and your partner is no longer holding onto any negative feelings. They have learned how to establish healthy boundaries, and they want to move forward. 

If you are asking about an ex’s feelings about you, the Four of Pentacles reversed means that your ex is healing from what had previously hurt them within your relationship. They have let go of a lot of their past hurts. In terms of reconciliation or getting back together, it depends on how your ex is viewing the situation. They have been healing, and they could feel like they just want to move on altogether, or they are ready to make a fresh start with you. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Four of Pentacles reversed is a good sign. Previously, they had been experiencing emotional blockers that were keeping them from moving forward. They were guarded and they were scared. However, they have moved past that now, and they are ready to explore what the future can look like together. 

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Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Four of Pentacles represents insecurity and jealousy. While it’s natural to want to be your partner’s special person, it can be counterproductive to take possessiveness too far. This can be a detriment and burden to the relationship. If you find yourself having these feelings, ask yourself where it is coming from and if it is based in reality. 

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