Four of Pentacles as Love Outcome (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Four of Pentacles is the card of insecurity, jealousy, possessiveness, stinginess, boundaries, and guardedness. This card depicts a man clutching many pentacles close to his body. His arms and feet are locked defensively in a closed stance. He acts as if he believes that someone is going to rob him at any second. He is guarded and does not trust others. 

The Four of Pentacles reminds us that boundaries are important to healthy relationships, but sometimes insecurity can take our boundaries too far. When we have our guard up to the point of paranoia and jealousy, we deprive ourselves of the ability to give and receive love and emotional support. The Four of Pentacles is a reminder that love should be freely given and that possessiveness can destroy relationships.

Upright Four of Pentacles as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw the Four of Pentacles, that means that you and your person could be really determined to officiate a relationship somehow. This would be something as simple as becoming exclusive.  It is astrologically associated with Sun in Capricorn, which is the sign of traditionalism. The Sun is also one of the strongest masculine energies in astrology. This is a relationship where the masculine energy is overly dominant, and the feminine energy doesn’t have much of a voice. The masculine energy can come off as overbearing to the feminine energy.

The Four of Pentacles as love outcome is a sign of unhealthy codependent dynamics. 

One partner might feel suffocated by the other’s possessive behavior.  The other might feel paranoid.  In some cases both sides of the relationship can be both paranoid and possessive, especially when both partners are considered attractive. Or, if they have some sort of platform, perhaps they’re popular on social media. If your person gets a lot of attention because of their profession, you need to have a talk about this massive aspect of your relationship.

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, the Four of Pentacles as love outcome means jealousy and possessiveness might color your relationship in the future. Especially if one or both of you get a lot of attention from others. This card is astrologically associated with the Sun and Capricorn. The Sun can represent having clout, literal fame, while Capricorn is associated with the Tenth House, which is all about public image and reputation. Even if your partner isn’t famous, there could be bickering over things like getting attention from people of the gender that your person is attracted to.

If you are in a new relationship, the Four of Pentacles as love outcome means you or your person could become quite possessive early on in the relationship. If one of you is popular or has a lot of suitors, this is understandable. Try to be compassionate, especially if you know your person has never dated somebody who gets as much attention as you do. However, if your person is just constantly possessive and jealous for no reason, then that’s a red flag. Your person perhaps needs to work on their insecurities or heal past relationship traumas. You can help them get help, but ultimately it’s up to them to help themselves.

If you are in an existing relationship, the Four of Pentacles as love outcome means unhealthy attachment dynamics. So, for example, somebody could be overly jealous and possessive due to insecurities. Or, alternatively, one or both of you may have abandonment issues that lead to codependent behavior. Yes, this keeps you together, but are you really bonding healthily? If your person is a possessive and controlling one, perhaps you’ve just kept quiet to keep the peace. But how long are you going to put up with this until you become resentful? And what happens when you finally reach your breaking point?

If you are currently in separation with each other, the Four of Pentacles as love outcome means potentially staying with each other out of codependency rather than healthy love. If you are separated by distance, you and your person might be plagued by paranoia of the other’s infidelity. This is a common issue in long-distance relationships, and it needs to be addressed unless you want the relationship to develop into something unhealthy. If you are inquiring about an ex you’re interested in reconciling with, they definitely do not want to lose you. However, they are not approaching the chance to reconcile from a healthy place. They are obsessive and potentially possessive.

Reversed Four of Pentacles as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw the Four of Pentacles reversed, that means that when both of you are healing.  One of you is learning to relate with the other in a healthier way. This could be due to insecurities or childhood wounds that cause possessiveness or codependency. If one of you had a tendency to be jealous, you may have had a serious talk on how to deal with that as a couple. As a couple, you’re learning how to trust and give each other space and freedom. The new healthier dynamics can only lead to a happy relationship.

The Four of Pentacles reversed as love outcome is a sign of being less uptight and more spontaneous.  If one or both of you were being too strict with finances, you may have learned a new way to be responsible with your finances while still enjoying life together. There’s a lot more fun.  If somebody has been hiding their emotions, they will now express their emotions more openly. This is also the card that usually comes up when a secret admirer has been outed. Platonic friends could become lovers under this energy. 

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, the Four of Pentacles reversed as love outcome means if you want this relationship to reach its full potential, avoid feeling possessive toward your new person. There might be some traits in this person which might compel you to become insecure, jealous. They may trigger you to react in certain ways that you would normally not do. There could be certain traits in your person or something about the nature of the relationship, that might compel you to behave out of character. The cards are warning you against indulging in lashing out. However, it does recommend communicating openly.

If you are in a new relationship, the Four of Pentacles reversed as love outcome means having healthy boundaries. If you’ve had an issue with setting boundaries in previous relationships, this relationship is your chance to have a relationship where you can apply healthy boundaries. The Four of Pentacles is also sometimes a card that represents being guarded. When it’s drawn in the reverse, it signifies openness. This is somebody who you can be emotionally vulnerable with. Alternatively, this card may indicate a need for setting healthy boundaries at the early stages of your relationship. Take your time.

If you are in an existing relationship, the Four of Pentacles reversed as love outcome means finally letting go of something that has been holding the relationship back. Sometimes this can be pent-up emotions. You could finally be speaking up about something that has been bugging you for years in your relationship. In other cases, this could be an inability to speak up.  In some cases this could be a financial matter if you share finances.  Whatever the case may be, letting go of the behavioral patterns or unhealthy habits that you share as a couple, will set you free.

If you are currently in separation with each other, the Four of Pentacles reversed as love outcome means letting go of unhealthy dynamics. If you are separated by distance, you are learning to trust your person in a healthy way.  Setting your own boundaries will lead to mutual respect. If you are inquiring about an ex you’re interested in reconciling with, you and your person are taking a more open and healthier approach to the possibility of reconciliation. You’re not approaching this from a place of possessiveness, obsessiveness, or codependency. Most importantly, your focus on healing the relationship to make it into something healthier.

Conclusion

For love readings, the Four of Pentacles represents insecurity and jealousy. While it’s natural to want to be your partner’s special person, it can be counterproductive to take possessiveness too far. This can be a detriment and burden to the relationship. If you find yourself having these feelings, ask yourself where it is coming from and if it is based in reality. 

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