Four of Swords as Feelings in Love & Relationships (Upright & Reversed)

The Four of Swords is the card of rest, relaxation, self-protection, peace, and rejuvenation. This card shows a knight lying down horizontally on a tomb. He is resting with his eyes closed. His hands are held in a prayer position, and he lies underneath a stained glass window, likely in a church. This indicates that he is thinking deeply about spiritual matters.

The Four of Swords reminds us that while there are times where we need to go, go, go, there are also times where we need to press the pause button. Relaxation and self-care are important factors for any successful relationship. The Four of Swords reminds us to take care of ourselves. We can’t give to others what we don’t have.

Upright Four of Swords as Feelings

If you are asking about how someone feels about you and you draw the Four of Swords, it means that this person is feeling tired and burned out. They feel like they need to press the pause button and slow down. They may have been pushing themselves very hard, and now need some downtime. They feel drained, and they want to take it easy for a bit. 

They also feel like they need some alone time right now. They need some time and space alone to collect their thoughts and recharge. They have been neglecting themselves, and they are in need of self-care. 

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Four of Swords means that this person is feeling drained. They have likely pushed themselves very hard in the initial dating stage, and they are now feeling tired. They need some time alone to recharge their energy. This is not necessarily a bad sign for your budding relationship. Everyone needs time alone now and then. 

For existing relationships, the Four of Swords indicates that this person feels emotionally burned out and tired. They’ve put a lot of themselves into your relationship, and it shows. It’s normal to feel this way after having significant disagreements. Give your partner the time and space they need to recuperate, and they will bounce back in no time. However, if you act clingy and paranoid, it will only drive them further away.

If you are asking about an old flame or an ex’s feelings about you, the Four of Swords indicates that they feel tired thinking about your relationship. They feel like they put themselves out there and they tried everything that they possibly could to save it. But now, they want to take some time to themselves right now to help them move on. If you are asking about reconciliation or getting back together, this card indicates that this person is not ready right now. They need some time and space to heal.

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Four of Swords is a sign that this person is not ready yet. They may feel like things are moving too quickly and that you need to slow down. Give them the time and space they need to get into a better headspace, and have an open and honest conversation with them to see if your visions of the future can align.   

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Reversed Four of Swords as Feelings

When the Four of Swords is reversed, it means that this person is feeling reenergized. They have spent some time meditating and thinking about everything going on in their life. They may not have achieved enlightenment, but they are certainly feeling awakened and reinvigorated. They feel their passions are reigniting and they are ready to take action.

This person is also coming out of their period of rest and self-care with learnings that they would like to share with you. They may feel grateful that you graciously gave them the time and space they needed to recover and regain their bearings. Because you allowed them to make their own choice, they feel empowered. 

For singles and those in new relationships, the Four of Swords reversed is a sign of feeling passionate and reinvigorated. This person has taken some time off between relationships to work on themselves. They meditated on what they needed to do better next time. They did the hard work on themselves. They are now feeling confident and ready to dive into a new relationship. This is a great sign.  

For those in committed relationships, the Four of Swords reversed is a sign of feeling like the passion has been reignited in your relationship. Your partner took some time alone to think about themselves, you, and your relationship. They came out of their period of meditation reenergized and full of ideas on how to make your relationship better. They are excited once again, and they feel empowered.  

If you are asking about an ex’s feelings about you, the Four of Swords reversed means that they have had a moment of enlightenment and awakening about your relationship. They took the time and space to think over what happened, and what they could have done differently. If you are wondering about reconciliation or getting back together, this is a good sign. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Four of Swords reversed means that they took some time to think about it, and they are excited to move forward. They are feeling good about the future, and they feel empowered to create the future they want with you. 

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Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Four of Swords represents rest and relaxation. Sometimes, things can get intense, and we need a timeout. Relaxation and self-care are important to any successful relationship. Take care of yourself, and make sure that you are giving to yourself. We can’t give to others what we don’t have ourselves. 

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