Four of Wands as Feelings in Love & Relationships (Upright & Reversed)

The Four of Wands is the card of marriage, weddings, parties, reunions, stability, home, and belonging. The card depicts a couple dancing beneath a wreath tied between four wands. The card represents the joy and satisfaction that comes with achieving an important life milestone, such as marriage.

The Four of Wands reminds us that life is about celebrating with our loved ones. Our family, friends, and loved ones are our community. They bring us true joy in life. When we are at our weakest, they are there to comfort us. When we are at our strongest, they are there to cheer us onward. There is always a time and place for gathering and having a reunion or a party. 

Upright Four of Wands as Feelings

If you are asking about how someone feels about you and you draw the Four of Wands, it means that this person is feeling truly happy when they think of you. They feel loved by you. They feel that you complete them in a deep way. You make them feel secure.

This person is also feeling that you have a strong foundation for a relationship. When they think about their future, they can picture you in it. They want to celebrate all of life’s greatest moments with you. 

This card is the card of family, of reunions and of festivities. The Four of Wands tarot love meaning can bring about engagements, marriages, or other gatherings that commemorate you and your love. If you’re in a stable relationship built on a strong foundation of trust, support and understanding, your union may be strengthened even more with the support and witness of your family and friends. This kind of love is not just the love between two people, but a love that is supported within the context of a larger community. Should you be single, you may find love within these communities and gatherings.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Four of Wands means that this person feels that your relationship has a lot of potential. They vibe with you in a big way. They can see you fitting in their long-term vision of the future. They are excited about seeing how your relationship will develop over time. They want to celebrate all of life with you. 

For existing relationships, the Four of Wands indicates that this person feels that your relationship is at a very happy place right now. When they are with you, they feel stable. They feel that you are in harmony with each other. If you’ve been thinking about growing your relationship to the next level, know that they have been thinking about it as well. They feel secure with you. You complete them, and they are excited to celebrate the future with you. 

If you are asking about an old flame or an ex’s feelings about you, the Four of Wands indicates that they feel very strongly about you. They remember how happy you were together. They realize that you completed each other, despite all of the things that you’ve been through. They feel like you are their twin flame. If you are asking about whether a reconciliation or a reunion is in the cards, this is a very positive signal.  

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Four of Wands is an amazing sign. This is the card of weddings. Your partner feels that you fit in with their long-term vision of the future. They want to see your relationship go to the next level. You are their one and only, and they want to celebrate all aspects of life with you. They are excited. All signs point to yes. 

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Reversed Four of Wands as Feelings

When the Four of Wands is reversed, it means that this person is feeling some hesitation about change. Life is full of good and bad. To get to the good, change is a necessary component. This person is scared of their feelings. They may feel like they aren’t ready to deepen their commitment just yet. They need to feel more confident in themselves before taking on a big change. 

This person also may feel that there are some incompatibilities between the two of you that need to be addressed. They feel unsure if they fit in with your long-term goals. They may feel that your values are different. These are all normal feelings to have. You can address these concerns with open and honest communication.

There may be some conflicts occurring when it comes to family and your romantic life at the moment. The Four of Wands tarot love meaning can signal incompatibilities between your larger community of friends and family, and your partner, or the way that you are approaching love and romance. Sometimes, since this card is also the card of deepening your commitments on a more public level, there can be some fear and hesitation about taking these next steps. Change, especially binding oneself with another person, can be wonderful and rewarding, as well as terrifying. These emotions can exist together, but only you will be able to know whether it comes from a deeper place than just cold feet.

For singles and those in new relationships, the Four of Wands reversed is a sign of feeling hesitant about your long-term compatibility. Long-term goals and shared values are things that need to be addressed in every relationship, to ensure that you are on the same page. This person may also feel scared of change. The best way to handle this is to have an honest conversation with them. 

For those in committed relationships, the Four of Wands reversed is a sign of feeling like there is some misalignment in the relationship. This person loves you, but they are also scared and hesitant of change. They are also worried that your long-term goals and values are not one and the same. This is a good point in the relationship to realign with each other on shared values and goals. If all goes well, you can take your relationship to the next level. 

If you are asking about an ex’s feelings about you, the Four of Wands reversed means that they are feeling conflicted about you. Your relationship was significant to them and helped them grow so much. They know that they wouldn’t be who they are today without you. That being said, they feel like the two of you have grown apart. They don’t know if you are on the same page anymore. If you are asking whether or not a reconciliation is possible, this is pointing to needing to address long-term compatibility issues first.  

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Four of Wands reversed means that they are feeling like there are still gaps for the two of you to overcome before making a larger commitment. This is a great time to realign with each other on your shared values and goals. Once this is addressed, they will feel much better about moving forward. 

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Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Four of Wands represents celebration, weddings, family, harmony and long-term prospects. Where everyone else wants to be, you already are. There is wholeness, harmony, and a sense of belonging here. The Four of Wands reminds us that life is all about celebrating with those we love. Happiness comes from our strongest relationships.

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