Four of Wands as Reconciliation (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Four of Wands is the card of marriage, weddings, parties, reunions, stability, home, and belonging. The card depicts a couple dancing beneath a wreath tied between four wands. The card represents the joy and satisfaction that comes with achieving an important life milestone, such as marriage.

The Four of Wands reminds us that life is about celebrating with our loved ones. Our family, friends, and loved ones are our community. They bring us true joy in life. When we are at our weakest, they are there to comfort us. When we are at our strongest, they are there to cheer us onward. There is always a time and place for gathering and having a reunion or a party.

Upright Four of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Four of Wands, it means your ex wishes to start over with a more solid, stable, stronger foundation. They envision a higher level of commitment for your future together. This is also a positive card to draw in a reading about your ex since the Four of Wands also represents happy reunions. This time around, they could be even ready for marriage. If they’re not quite ready for that level of commitment, at the very least they view this reconciliation as something to celebrate or even a celebration in itself.

Four of Wands as reconciliation is a very positive sign of starting off a second chance on a more stable foundation than before. It could be an indication that your partner has either always seen long-term potential in you or they have come to realize that they will be most compatible with you. This card is a symbol of elation realized. Reconciliation will make both of you extremely happy.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they definitely feel a strong urge to reconcile. Not only that, but your ex is also thinking about upgrading your relationship to a higher level of commitment. They are thinking about happier times in your past and they wish to repeat those experiences and create similar new ones. They’re thinking about offering a more tranquil and peaceful atmosphere this time around. They see your relationship’s potential for emotional fulfillment, and they are extremely excited to make this reconciliation happen.

If you’ve recently split up, Four of Wands means they are already missing the stability, the security, even the mundane daily routines they had when you were together. Whether you were living together or in a long-distance relationship, you always made this person feel “at home.” You were this person’s “home.” Without you, they feel lost, and immediately after splitting up with you realized what a grounding effect you were in their life. They feel like you were their rock. They want to come back to you.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Four of Wands means they often find themselves thinking about the happier times you had together. Perhaps they’ve tried other relationships after separating with you and realized they do not feel as stable and grounded as they were with you. They are longing for the peace and tranquility they enjoyed with you. They remember you fondly, and they want reconciliation to happen.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Four of Wands means you still see a solid future together and cannot envision not being in each other’s lives. As the card of twin flames, it reminds you that your twin flame is a reflection designed to prompt healing parts of yourself that require attention. However, you must also remember that twin flames do not necessarily end up together. By no means do you have to stay with your person if your relationship has become toxic.

Reversed Four of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Four of Wands reversed, it means they wish they could reconcile and celebrate with you, but they do not believe that this is realistic at the moment. Perhaps your ex has already established another stable relationship with another person, and they are in no position to pursue a reconciliation with you at this time. They are not optimistic that reconciling will make either of you happy in the long term.

Four of Wands reversed as reconciliation is a sign of bittersweetness. Be mindful and examine whether or not you or your partner have codependent tendencies. One or both of you could simply miss a false sense of “stability,” when in fact the relationship was riddled in conflict. This could also indicate a reconciliation on the basis of practical considerations. So, for example if you co-parent with your ex, this could be a decision to move in together to keep both parents under the same roof for your children’s sake, but at the expense of individually finding true happiness.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they are pessimistic that the relationship will ever develop into anything stable. Alternatively, your ex could feel that reconciliation would mean having to agree to a higher level of commitment than they are ready for. If one of you had conflict with the other’s circle of friends or family members, they may worry that that could come up as an issue again. They worry that forcing reconciliation could create instability down the line within their family or social life.

If you’ve recently split up, Four of Wands reversed means the split has definitely made them feel a shock in their system, particularly if you were the one to break the relationship off. If they were the one to initiate the break up, they are beginning to realize that their life will never be the same again. They feel some regret. However, approaching them to reconcile at this very moment may not be the wisest move as your person is quite disoriented. This card in the reverse advises you to give both you and your ex some time to heal and stabilize.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Four of Wands reversed often speaks of needing to feel more stable and confident in oneself before making a move. When you get this card in the reversed position, it could indicate that even after all this time your ex still feels inadequate and unprepared to enter into a deeper commitment with you. They have considered reconciliation, but they felt conflicted about it. The two of you may have grown apart, and your ex is finally coming to terms with the fact that resolving your long-standing issues would be very difficult.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Four of Wands reversed means one of you wants the relationship to progress faster than the other person does. Perhaps one of you feels emotionally or financially unprepared to take the relationship to the next level. The two of you recognize that the relationship has become toxic, but both of you are hesitant to break it off, possibly out of fear of exiting the illusion of a comfort zone. This card also warns querents of false twin flames.

Conclusion

For relationships and reconciliation, the Four of Wands represents celebration, weddings, family, harmony and long-term prospects. Where everyone else wants to be, you already are. There is wholeness, harmony, and a sense of belonging here. The Four of Wands reminds us that life is all about celebrating with those we love. Happiness comes from our strongest relationships.

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