Hanged Man as Feelings Tarot Card Meaning Sibyl Tarot

The Hanged Man is the card of sacrifice, surrender, and waiting. The Hanged Man is suspended upside down, viewing the world from an entirely different perspective. Even so, he shows  little discomfort. He is serene and calm, with a halo around his head. This new perspective is giving him enlightenment. 

The Hanged Man is a reminder that though we may want life and love to go a certain way, it is not always up to us on how things play out. Sometimes, the timing may not be quite right. Other times, being patient, doing nothing, and just letting the situation play out by itself gets us a better result. Additionally, there are times in life where sacrifice and a shift in perspective is needed.  

Upright Hanged Man as Feelings

If you are asking about how someone feels about you, and you draw the Hanged Man, it means that this person feels unwilling to be rushed. They feel a sense of surrender to the present. This can mean that you two are on two different timelines when it comes to important life decisions or taking your relationship to the next level. It’s important to understand where your partner is coming from, and having an honest assessment of both of your needs. Patience and acceptance is key. 

The Hanged Man is also a sign of feeling that sacrifices have to be made. This can either foster resentment or renew commitment, depending on how the situation is approached. Remember that the Hanged Man is just as much about finding new perspectives on life (shown by the Hanged Man’s upside down position) as it is about waiting.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Hanged Man means that this person feels that things cannot be rushed. It may be the case that they are not ready to start a new relationship yet. Though this person likes you, they may not feel that now is the right time for them. They could have come out of a rough breakup, or they could have career goals that they want to first fulfill. Or, perhaps, they feel that something must be sacrificed for this to work, and they need more time to decide. When it comes to relationships, timing is everything. Be patient, and you will be justly rewarded. 

For existing relationships, the Hanged Man indicates that this person feels that they are making large sacrifices for you and the relationship. They feel stuck, and they find it difficult to see forward growth and momentum without first changing their perspective. Long-term, this kind of stagnation may not be tenable. To fix this, you need to have an honest conversation with your partner about your needs and how to make this more fair for both of you. 

If you are asking about an old flame or an ex’s feelings about you, the Hanged Man indicates that your ex feels a sense of surrender. In one case, they could be putting their feelings for you on hold as they focus on other areas of their life. In another case, they could be finally reaching the stage where they are surrendering to feelings about you that they were previously fighting off. Depending on the case, a desire for reconciliation could be in the cards. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Hanged Man as feelings indicates that this person is unready to move forward at this time. This does not mean that they will never move forward, but the timing is not right at the moment. Perhaps this person feels that they need to develop their career or finish graduate school first. It may not be up to you if the other party is not ready to move forward. Instead of trying to force a commitment, use this time to see what you need and where you’re at. It’s okay to realize that you are on two different timelines. 

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Reversed Hanged Man as Feelings

When the Hanged Man is reversed, it means that this person feels indecisive and reluctant to make a decision or embrace change. Even though now is the time for action, they don’t feel 100% ready to take action now. The period of waiting is over, but they are still waiting. They feel paralyzed in their inability to take a stand. This person will only be able to do this in their own time. The best thing you can do is ensure that your own needs are being met in the meantime.

That being said, the Hanged Man reversed can indicate that this person is feeling almost ready to make a change. This is especially true if they have already taken a long period of time in self-reflection. At some point soon, they will be able to move forward with a renewed sense of passion and energy. Change is coming. 

For singles and those in new relationships, the Hanged Man reversed is a sign of feeling indecisive about where your potential relationship is headed. Not all hope is lost, however. This person is taking the time to consider different perspectives on romance and love. They need that time to come out with a clearer understanding of what it is they want from a relationship. They could very well come out of this with renewed energy and passion. Be patient, and surrender control to the present. 

For those in committed relationships, the Hanged Man reversed is a sign of feeling indecisive and resistant to change. These feelings could be targeted at many different areas of life. It may not be personal to you, and it certainly is not up to you to fix. This person is on the cusp of change, but does not feel entirely ready to embrace it yet. They will come around in their own time. The Hanged Man cautions you to be patient and wait. It also cautions you against making unnecessary sacrifices for love. It’s important that both you and your partner’s needs are met. 

If you are asking about an ex’s feelings about you, the Hanged Man reversed means that they feel indecisive about the way things ended. Even though things are over, they are finding it very difficult to move on. If you are looking for a reconciliation, it is not out of question. However, this person must get to a place where they are able to be decisive and stick with their decision. It isn’t fair to you if they continue to be indecisive about where they stand. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Hanged Man reversed indicates that this person feels unready and is stalling for time. They are waiting to feel 100% ready, even though they will never feel 100% ready. They should take the leap and make the decision, but they are finding it very difficult to do so. No amount of nagging or pushing will work. In this case, you may need to explain your needs very clearly and be willing to walk if necessary. They may be on hold, but you are not on hold. 

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For relationships and feelings, the Hanged Man reveals that everything comes at its own time. No matter how much we may want to, we cannot force love or a relationship. Sometimes, the best thing to do is nothing. When we are patient, opportunities will come. If we lean into the Hanged Man’s energy of patience and sacrifice, we will be ready to embrace opportunities when they do come–to the fullest. 

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