Hanged Man as Love Outcome (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Hanged Man is the card of sacrifice, surrender, and waiting. The Hanged Man is suspended upside down, viewing the world from an entirely different perspective. Even so, he shows  little discomfort. He is serene and calm, with a halo around his head. This new perspective is giving him enlightenment. 

The Hanged Man is a reminder that though we may want life and love to go a certain way, it is not always up to us on how things play out. Sometimes, the timing may not be quite right. Other times, being patient, doing nothing, and just letting the situation play out by itself gets us a better result. Additionally, there are times in life where sacrifice and a shift in perspective is needed.  

Upright Hanged Man as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw the Hanged Man, that means that your person wants to go with the flow and they can’t be rushed. This card is astrologically associated with Neptune, which embodies Piscean energy. If your person is spiritual, they believe in fate and divine timing. They want things to unfold in a “spiritually natural” manner. The relationship itself may feel very dreamy. You could enjoy and bond over escapism: films, music, art, poetry. Your person might even consider you their muse. You were both brought into each others’ lives to teach you a new perspective.

The Hanged Man as love outcome is a sign of stillness. But keep in mind, this is a positive “contentment” kind of stillness. This might frustrate you if you expect your relationship to progress to a higher level of commitment. Perhaps they feel such a strong spiritual bond with you they feel “legalizing” or “making it official” with you is unnecessary. The Hanged Man card is also about sacrifices, let your person know what you expect from them. It also asks you whether you’re sacrificing your own feelings and needs to accommodate their fixed or stubborn ways. This card advises you both to compromise and meet each other halfway.

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, the Hanged Man as love outcome means your person cannot be rushed into a relationship with you. Don’t take this personally. You may not know them well enough to know what is going on in this person’s world. This card is astrologically associated with Neptune, Pisces, and the 12th House. The 12th House is all about the subconscious, the hidden, the unknown, and spirituality. They could be working on some heavy-duty psychological issues that are unknown to you. Your person could be doing shadow work, or even a Spiritual Awakening. It would be in your best interest to allow this person the time and space to heal. A relationship can’t be healthy unless both parties are grounded and healed.

If you are in a new relationship, the Hanged Man as love outcome means your person is willing to make certain sacrifices to make your relationship work. The Hanged Man is still, so you may not even be aware that they’re making these sacrifices for you. Although they feel stuck, they’re trying to keep calm and see things from various perspectives. This could be something mundane like logistics, if you’re moving in together. Try to be supportive, have patience, and most importantly: communicate. Ask them if everything is okay. Your compassion and understanding will be justly rewarded.

If you are in an existing relationship, the Hanged Man as love outcome means there’s some stuck energy. Something is not flowing. Perhaps you both entered into this relationship knowing that you had fundamental differences. Maybe both of you counted on the other party changing, but neither of you ever did or could. Now you and your person find it hard to see forward growth, so something needs to change. And if neither of you can stay stuck in a relationship where you don’t see eye-to-eye. Having “a talk” is the obvious solution here. But empathy and listening are also key.

If you are currently in separation with each other, the Hanged Man as love outcome means your person is in no hurry to meet, reconnect, or reconcile. Whether you’re separated by distance or you’re inquiring about an ex, they’re at a standstill. This card is astrologically associated with Neptune and Piscesan energy, so some 12th House themes could get triggered. For example, your ex may not want to reconcile due to subconscious childhood issues that they need to work on. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, this card does not indicate any negative feelings. They think and fantasize about you a lot. They see you everywhere. However, your person could be so in love with the idea of you, they won’t bother meeting you in real life. If this becomes an issue, express your concerns and discuss realistic steps you can take to progress your relationship in the real world.

Reversed Hanged Man as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw the Hanged Man reversed, that means that your person is indecisive. They’re reluctant to make a move, even though time has cornered them into making a move. This card could indicate analysis paralysis.

This card is astrologically associated with the planet Neptune. A darker side of Neptunian energy can be overthinking. A level-headed, factual discussion needs to be had with your person. On the other hand, drawing this card in reverse could also indicate your person has healed. Maybe the “reality check” has already recently happened. Expect change soon.

The Hanged Man reversed as love outcome is a sign of your person feeling almost ready to make a change in your relationship. They’ve taken their downtime for self reflection and finally gotten out of their head. They’re ready to implement things in the real world. Your person is coming back to make up lost time with a renewed sense of passion and energy. This could also indicate that they’ve healed from destructive behaviors or bad habits that kept them stuck. They want to be more present this time around.

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, the Hanged Man reversed as love outcome means you will have to be patient with this person. They may have just come out of a dark period in their life. However, they’re determined to do things the right and healthy way. If you’ve been through many relationships where you feel misunderstood, this person could be your silver lining. This is a great card to draw if you create art together.

If you are in a new relationship, the Hanged Man reversed as love outcome means your person feels indecisive about how they want to move forward with this relationship. They’re stepping back to decide how they feel about various topics related to love and romance. However, drawing this card in reverse indicates this person has been weighing things out for a while now. They might make up their minds soon. Have a casual chat with this person to gauge how they’re feeling about your future. Don’t be pushy but make sure the discussion is based on facts.

If you are in an existing relationship, the Hanged Man reversed as love outcome means a resistance to change. Perhaps both of you were counting on the other to change for the other. When drawn in the reverse, the passiveness just turns into stubbornness. Things might get emotionally taxing for both of you. You could feel frustration, resentment, and even anger daily. Maybe it’s time to surrender to your own needs. Maybe it’s time for you to find happiness elsewhere? Everyone deserves to be with someone who just ‘gets’ them. That person is out there waiting for you.

If you are currently in separation with each other, the Hanged Man reversed as love outcome means indecisiveness. Your person cannot make up their mind. Whether they are separated by distance or you’re inquiring about an ex, this person is stuck in their own head. They weigh the pros and cons of reconciling or moving or traveling to be near you, but can never make a final decision. Reconciliation or relocation isn’t out of the question, but it’s hard to pinpoint when your person is in or out. There needs to be a serious discussion and whatever that final decision is, promise each other to stick with it. Don’t make any ultimatums, just reason with your person and be open to what comes out of the discussion.

Conclusion

For love readings, the Hanged Man reveals that everything comes at its own time. No matter how much we may want to, we cannot force love or a relationship. Sometimes, the best thing to do is nothing. When we are patient, opportunities will come. If we lean into the Hanged Man’s energy of patience and sacrifice, we will be ready to embrace opportunities when they do come–to the fullest. 

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