King of Wands as Love Outcome (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The King of Wands is the card of leadership, vision, boldness, and decisiveness. The card depicts a king on his throne, holding a wand as his scepter. He looks out into the distance towards his kingdom. He has a vision for his empire, and he is ready to make decisions to expand it. He is full of relentless optimism for the future.  

The King of Wands is the zenith of the suit of wands. The King of Wands reminds us that it is important to have a bold vision for your relationships, and to be decisive in your decision making. When you know yourself deeply, you will know what the right choice is. You won’t hesitate, because you will be perfectly aligned with your authentic self. 

Upright King of Wands as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw the King of Wands, that means that you’re in for an exciting ride. Your person will do everything it takes to win you over, and they won’t take no for an answer. This card is astrologically associated with Fire energy and the Fire signs, which pretty much describes this person’s courting style in a nutshell. This person may be generous and a little showy as they embody the energy of a peacock. They dress, walk, and talk to impress, and it’s very important to them that you, in particular, are impressed. They’re very passionate about you, and they find you sexy and attractive.

The King of Wands as love outcome is a sign of a passionate, new beginning. This will be a mature kind of love, so they will tend to be very clear with what they want from the get go. While this person may get a lot of attention, they’ll make sure that their attention is only for you. However, don’t expect this “mature” person to be boring! The King of Wands knows how to have fun more than any of the kings in the Tarot, he’ll show you a good time. Your person is keen to take you out, wine and dine, and enjoy some culture with you.

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, the King of Wands as love outcome means long-term passion. The Kings in the Tarot are the most mature and stable energies. They are also seasoned, and they’ll enrich your life with new experiences. As soon as they know what they want, they will be determined to get it – especially the King of Wands. You could learn a lot from your partner when it comes to leadership, life, business, and people. The King of Wands is passionate about life and the causes they believe in, so it’s not just about the physical connection with this one.

If you are in a new relationship, the King of Wands as love outcome means a relationship that is both passionate and grounded. One or both of you have experienced quite a bit of life, and you have strong views about the world. This is a relationship where you may bond over the same causes, philosophies, or even spirituality. Your person’s actions may be colored by their life’s experiences, but whatever they’ve been through hasn’t made them jaded, just wiser. And most importantly: they haven’t lost their zest for life. So do not come into this relationship with a pessimistic mindset, this is somebody you can manifest so much positivity with!

If you are in an existing relationship, the King of Wands as love outcome means your relationship is in perfect balance. The passion is still there, you still feel physically connected, and you’re both maturing together as a unit. If you’re looking to move the relationship to a higher level of commitment, seeing a mature court card such as a king or queen is an excellent sign. Even if you haven’t reached a new milestone in your relationship, know that your relationship has ascended to a higher level. Both of you have learned a lot from each other, especially philosophically. Being with your person has enriched you spiritually.

If you are currently in separation with each other, the King of Wands as love outcome means your person has a clear vision of the future, and that future involves a passionate new beginning with you. If you are separated by distance, your person is fired up to be with you. But don’t expect your person to make any rash decisions, this is mature, well-planned king energy. If you are inquiring about an ex, your person feels passionate about getting back with you. Since your break up, your person has matured quite a bit, which is why they’re showing up in kingly energy. They’re planning a life with you and willing to make the mature steps to heal the relationship.

Reversed King of Wands as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw the King of Wands reversed, that means that one or both of you are in their ego right now. In the reverse, the king’s energy can come off as aggressive and too forceful. Outbursts of anger and arguments could be an issue in your relationship. One of you could be manipulative about getting their way, and prone to gaslighting and mind games. This is a very egotistical and selfish energy. If you are on the receiving end of this behavior, learn to identify what a toxic and abusive relationship looks like, and know when to walk away.

The King of Wands reversed as love outcome is a sign of succumbing to one’s ego. This is the card that, when drawn in the reverse, may indicate infidelity and affairs. It can also speak of jealousy, possessiveness, and controlling behavior. Your person could have double standards that only favor them. You could also be dealing with a “drama king/queen” who stirs up conflicts because they get off the excitement of fighting. These unhealthy behaviors may stem from having negative role models in childhood, and while you can help them heal, you can only help a person who wants to be helped.

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, the King of Wands reversed as love outcome means there could be some unhealthy dynamics in your relationship. Your person could approach the relationship from a place of arrogance. For example, they might have a toxic belief that you should be grateful to be with them at all, leading to carelessness in the way they treat you. There could also be a power imbalance in the relationship where you end up feeling powerless in the relationship in general. Drawing this card advises you to stand your ground, if that’s a safe option for you. When that’s not an option for you, know when to walk away, and find happiness with someone who knows how to value your worth.

If you are in a new relationship, the King of Wands reversed as love outcome means the relationship needs to slow down. Maybe your person is too controlling for someone who’s only been with you for a couple of weeks. They may feel insecure and afraid to lose you, but if they’re this controlling or argumentative so early on in the relationship, what are they going to be like further down the line? Perhaps you should set some clear boundaries early on to test the waters. If they can’t respect your boundaries, perhaps you should find the healthier relationship that you deserve. 

If you are in an existing relationship, the King of Wands reversed as love outcome means an unhealthy relationship dynamic needs to be addressed. The King of Wands in the reverse position can indicate selfishness, lack of passion, infidelity, belligerence, and bad tempers. This could be a result of recent changes in your lives, impacting your person’s personality. Or, this could be an ongoing issue that needs to be addressed once and for all. If this relationship is no longer serving your higher good or affecting your mental health, maybe it’s time to focus on what’s best for you. You deserve to be happy.

If you are currently in separation with each other, the King of Wands reversed as love outcome means there could be some selfishness in your relationship dynamic. Whether you are separated by distance or inquiring about an ex, your person isn’t taking your feelings into consideration. If you’re separated by distance, this could indicate your person showing arrogance: they could blatantly cheat, use the fact that you’re not around as an excuse, and want you to do all the work. Likewise, if you’re inquiring about an ex you’d like to reconcile with, they’ll expect you to make all the compromises. They only want to reconcile on their terms. Know when to walk away, you deserve so much better!

Conclusion

For love readings, the King of Wands represents having a bold vision and being decisive in your actions. The King of Wands is the consummate CEO, always guiding the boat forwards. The King of Wands reminds us that we each need to be leaders in our relationships. Co-lead the relationship with your partner, and you will find success together. 

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