Nine of Pentacles as Reconciliation (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Nine of Pentacles is the card of success, achievement, rewarded efforts, independence, security, and leisure. This card shows a wealthy woman, dressed in luxurious clothes, walking around her garden while holding a falcon on her arm. The vines behind her are heavy with grapes and golden pentacles, emphasizing her accomplishments and wealth. 

The Nine of Pentacles reminds us that having a mindset of abundance is key to a healthy relationship. We can’t give to others what we do not have ourselves. When we are independently happy, we can share that happiness with others. Even when we are partnered with someone, it’s important to maintain some independence.   

Upright Nine of Pentacles as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Nine of Pentacles, it means independence and leisure. Your ex enjoys being single. They have no hard feelings toward you. Drawing this card about someone means they are living their best life. Happy people don’t have time to have consuming negative thoughts about anyone else. If you want to reconcile, this could be a positive sign. It means they haven’t found somebody new. If things didn’t work out before because they were dealing with financial concerns, that is no longer an issue for them.

Nine of Pentacles as reconciliation is a sign of success, independence, and leisure. This would be the type of relationship where both parties are very independent. Some couples like to be joined by the hip, but not with this couple. For a reconciliation, this could indicate a relationship where both parties know each other well. You’ve skipped the “getting-to-know-each-other phase”. This could be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on your preferences. If you enjoy those familiar comfortable silences, then great. But being distant and isolated was an issue, then it needs to be discussed and addressed. Have date nights and dedicate time to spend with one another.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel neutral. They’re not in a hurry to run back into your arms. They’re also not resentful or bitter toward you at all, in fact they probably remember you fondly. Right now they’re enjoying singlehood and focusing on themselves. They could get into self-development, or they could be doing their shadow work. This might be part of their healing process. Your ex may not be ready to try again, give them some time to work on themselves.

If you’ve recently split up, Nine of Pentacles means your ex is happy to be single for now.

They’re not in a hurry to reunite with you. Your ex is more focused on themselves right now. They could focus on a creative endeavor, their career, building abundance, or vacationing. Your person is trying to live their best life as a way of healing. They think of you fondly and wish you happiness, but they may not be ready to reconcile yet.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Nine of Pentacles means your ex is happy in their singlehood and independence. They’re trying to enjoy life and better themselves. Your ex is feeling independent and not particularly keen on being in a relationship. They remember you and they look back at the relationship fondly. However, reconciling with you is not a priority for them right now.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Nine of Pentacles means your partner feels secure and happy when they are with you. You could have issues stemming from being overly detached from each other. While it’s great to maintain individuality, maybe you’re not spending enough quality time together. Drawing this card indicates your relationship has potential to develop into a higher level of commitment.

Reversed Nine of Pentacles as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Nine of Pentacles reversed, it means independence is an issue for them. They could fear “losing themselves” in a relationship due to past traumas. Your ex could also have a deep-seated commitment phobia. Even though they love you, their fears and anxieties are getting the best of the best of them. If you want to reconcile, they would need some reassurance.

Nine of Pentacles reversed as reconciliation is a sign of issues of independence. One or both of you may feel they lose their individuality and independence in this relationship. Or, there could be an unhealthy lack of independence. This could lead to codependency or overreliance on the partner. This card often signifies abundance and success. One of you could be overly preoccupied with finances or keeping up appearances. One partner may be subconsciously unwilling to let go of singlehood, leading to infidelity. If this is the case, this needs to be discussed and addressed openly and constructively. Otherwise, it would be hard for this reconciliation to work out.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel they can’t get over you. Although they appear to have everything, they feel there is something missing in their life. They might miss you. However, they have conflicting ideas about relationships. They could have fears of commitment and losing their independence. For that reason, reconciliation will be an uphill battle with this person. Your person will need to heal themselves and grow before reconciling with you. You will have to work with this person to make this relationship work.

If you’ve recently split up, Nine of Pentacles reversed means they are hung-up on you. At the time, they’re also enjoying their singlehood. They miss you, but they are not in a rush to reconnect with you. They might have to do some shadow work to heal past traumas, before a reconciliation is possible. Give this person space and time. Approaching them for a reconciliation right now might not be the best idea right now. 

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Nine of Pentacles reversed means this person is indulging in their singlehood. They might miss you, but they are unwilling to make the commitment. Your person you, but they also love their independence too much. In the reverse, this card could indicate selfishness. This person may be incapable of committing because of past traumas or insecurities. If they do agree to reconcile, you’ll need to be very clear about what you expect.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Nine of Pentacles reversed means lack of commitment. Even though everything seems to be going in the right direction, your partner may show signs of commitment phobia. They may prefer non-traditional arrangements over traditional commitments. This is great if you both want the same thing. Make sure you’re genuinely okay with this and you’re simply too afraid of letting go. Have an honest and open discussion and think long term.

Conclusion

For relationships and reconciliation, the Nine of Pentacles represents abundance and independence. When two people come together in a relationship, it’s still important for each person to maintain some of their independence and individuality. This card is a reminder that two healthy individuals can form a greater whole in a partnership. 

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