Nine of Swords as Feelings in Love & Relationships (Upright & Reversed)

The Nine of Swords is the card of anxiety, fear, negativity, breaking points, isolation, and despair. The card shows a woman sitting up in bed with her head in her hands. She seems to have been awakened from a terrible nightmare, and she is having trouble falling back asleep. The swords hang on the wall behind her, indicating all of the negative emotions and thoughts that are weighing heavily on her mind. 

The Nine of Swords reminds us that worrying excessively over a situation is not useful. Worrying does nothing to actually help the situation improve, and only makes you feel worse. Most of our worst fears will never materialize. Much of our suffering and anguish is mental and self-inflicted. Make sure that you are not letting your own limiting beliefs hold you back from happiness. The Nine of Swords reminds us that it is up to us to break the cycle.   

Upright Nine of Swords as Feelings

If you are asking about how someone feels about you and you draw the Nine of Swords, it means that this person is feeling anxious. They are suffering from their own mental anguish right now. They may be struggling with guilt, remorse, insecurity, trust, and mental health issues. They are going through a lot of pain and do not know how to break the cycle.

Additionally, this person’s feelings may not be totally founded in reality. Their suffering is likely also self-inflicted in nature. Though their feelings feel very real to them, they may be suffering from paranoia and anxiety. They are not able to think rationally right now. 

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Nine of Swords means that this person is feeling anxious about you and your relationship. They are feeling insecure about themselves, and they are constantly finding fault in what they are doing. Even if you reassure them, they may still struggle with guilt, self-doubt, insecurity, and other mental health issues. Their fears and anxieties are internal. They may need to learn how to be more secure before this relationship can truly blossom.  

For existing relationships, the Nine of Swords indicates that this person feels insecure in your relationship right now. They are going through a lot of inner pain and anguish, but they are not at the point yet where they can let you in and see all of their vulnerabilities. They feel as if they need to break the cycle, but they aren’t sure how. A lot of their feelings may be founded more in paranoia than in reality. They are not able to think rationally right now.  

If you are asking about an old flame or an ex’s feelings about you, the Nine of Swords indicates that they are in pain about your breakup. They are feeling anxious, guilty, and remorseful. Now they are out of the relationship, they have been living a nightmare. If you are wondering if reconciliation or getting back together is an option, it can only be done after they break out of their current cycle. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Nine of Swords is a sign that not all is well in the relationship. Your partner is feeling anxious and insecure. They cannot see the same bright future that you can, even though their thoughts and feelings may be founded more on paranoia than reality. They have to get to a place where they can feel more secure before they will be ready to move forward.  

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Reversed Nine of Swords as Feelings

When the Nine of Swords is reversed, it means that this person is feeling like they are ready to be honest and face the truth now. They have been suffering quietly alone. However, they’ve come to realize that carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders is not worth it. They know that they can reach out to those around them to help lighten the load. 

They are also ready to receive support from others at this time. They have learned that the people around them can give them the reassurance they need. They realize now that they are not alone.

For singles and those in new relationships, the Nine of Swords reversed is a sign of feeling relieved. They are relieved that they have met someone like you. They feel like they can be open and honest with you, and they are ready to let you in. This person has gone through a lot of pain in the past, but they have come to realize that going it alone is not the way forward for them. They are ready to give and receive support, which is a promising sign.  

For those in committed relationships, the Nine of Swords reversed is a sign of feeling like they are ready to let go of their worries and share their emotional burden with you. Your partner has been holding onto a lot of anxieties and worries. This has been almost destroying them mentally. But they are now at the point where they’ve realized that the point of being in a relationship is to have someone with whom to share the ups and downs of life. They are ready to look at everything honestly and face the truth now. 

If you are asking about an ex’s feelings about you, the Nine of Swords reversed means that they are ready to let go of the past pain that had been consuming them. They are ready to be honest and face the truth now. They had been suffering alone, but now they are ready to receive support from others. Reconciliation or getting back together may be possible now.  

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Nine of Swords reversed means that they are ready to talk about it now. Whereas before they carried a lot of unsaid burdens and anxiety around the topic, they are now willing to engage with it openly and honestly. This is a good time for the two of you to have an open and honest conversation around the subject.  

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Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Nine of Swords represents mental anguish and despair. Much of our suffering is self-inflicted. Make sure that you are not subconsciously allowing your own limiting beliefs to hold you back from being happy. The Nine of Swords is a reminder that we can break the cycle. 

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