Nine of Swords as Love Outcome (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Nine of Swords is the card of anxiety, fear, negativity, breaking points, isolation, and despair. The card shows a woman sitting up in bed with her head in her hands. She seems to have been awakened from a terrible nightmare, and she is having trouble falling back asleep. The swords hang on the wall behind her, indicating all of the negative emotions and thoughts that are weighing heavily on her mind. 

The Nine of Swords reminds us that worrying excessively over a situation is not useful. Worrying does nothing to actually help the situation improve, and only makes you feel worse. Most of our worst fears will never materialize. Much of our suffering and anguish is mental and self-inflicted. Make sure that you are not letting your own limiting beliefs hold you back from happiness. The Nine of Swords reminds us that it is up to us to break the cycle.   

Upright Nine of Swords as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw the Nine of Swords, that means a relationship could be causing anxiety. It is astrologically associated with Mars in Gemini, which can be an uncomfortable energy to go through. Mars can be a sharp, aggressive, and angry energy, while Gemini is cerebral and restless. Together, these two energies can represent overthinking and analysis paralysis. On the flip side, Mars is associated with action, while Gemini is associated with speech, indicating that you are being advised to think thoroughly before you act or speak.

The Nine of Swords as love outcome is a sign of needing to take a break. You need to pinpoint what exactly is making you anxious in this relationship. Is it something clinical that you can see a mental health professional for? Are you insecure, or do you have abandonment issues from childhood? Or, is your person the source of your anxiety? When your person makes you anxious, do you think that they’re doing it intentionally and maliciously, or do you think they possibly need help too?

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, the Nine of Swords as love outcome means you should prioritize your peace of mind above anything else. This is a time to have compassion for yourself as well as your person. If they’re not mentally ready to be in a new relationship after a messy divorce or break up, don’t rush them. If you see multiple red flags but you’re tired of being single, don’t rush yourself! Your peace of mind is a valuable asset, it’s just as important as your physical health and wellbeing.

If you are in a new relationship, the Nine of Swords as love outcome means you or your person may be having a case of “stage fright.” Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Nobody is perfect, no relationship is perfect, you’re only human, and relationships are about relating to each other. It’s not a performance, so improvise a little bit. Don’t overthink it. Be spontaneous.

If you are in an existing relationship, the Nine of Swords as love outcome means that if you are in a healthy relationship, you’re too anxious about the future. If you’re certain that you’re not in an abusive relationship, you’re not living in the present. However, if you’re constantly feeling anxious, maybe ask yourself if you are in a healthy relationship. Healthy relationships aren’t supposed to make you anxious. If you know that your partner is the anxious one, and it’s starting to impact the relationship, be compassionate and supportive toward them. If necessary, you can help them get help for their anxiety, maybe with a mental health professional or a trained relationship counselor.

If you are currently in separation with each other, the Nine of Swords as love outcome means there is a lot of anxiety surrounding the separation itself. If one or both of you think you may have codependency issues, attachment issues, or abandonment issues, it might help to see a trained professional. If you are separated by distance, don’t overwhelm yourself with worst case scenarios. Apart from unnecessarily stressing yourself out, thinking about potential stressful scenarios is not good for your manifestations. If you are inquiring about an ex you’re interested in reconciling with, your person is anxious about not being with you, and is possibly even losing sleep over what happened. They may be open to reconciliation, but it’s important to ensure that both parties will approach this reconciliation with calmness and clarity, rather than from a place of fear.

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Reversed Nine of Swords as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw the Nine of Swords reversed, that means that you are refusing to let anxiety get in the way of your relationships progress. This could be an indication that you’re healing an anxiety-inducing incident in your relationship’s past. Perhaps you’ve come to realize that the things you used to be anxious about don’t matter in the greater scheme of things. Even though you had legitimate reasons to be anxious, you’ve gained perspective. Alternatively, it may indicate you feeling relieved that you left a stressful situation. You’re on your way toward a healthier mental state.

The Nine of Swords reversed as love outcome is a sign of recovering from sleepless nights. You’ve figured out that you cannot rely on others to give you peace of mind. Peace of mind can only come from yourself. At the same time, you’re now more open to receiving support from others. You’re also very grateful for your support system. Inner peace comes from a balance of self reliance and being receptive toward help from others, including your partner.

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, the Nine of Swords reversed as love outcome means you need to choose your battles. You already see multiple red flags, or you know their reputation, yet you continue pursuing this relationship. It’s almost as though you already know what you’re getting into if you were to get involved with this person. Are you just giving them the benefit of the doubt, because you believe people can change? Or, is there something about them or the relationship you can’t resist? You deserve to live in peace.

If you are in a new relationship, the Nine of Swords reversed as love outcome means letting go of inhibitions. You or your person could be anxious about the future of this relationship. Drawing this card in the reverse may indicate that you’re over worrying, and you should trust the Universe more. You may want to start journaling, articulate your worries into words. And then, perhaps encourage your person to do the same, and have a rehash on the things that cause you both anxiety. In addition to getting to the root of your anxiety about the relationship, and hopefully solving the problem, this might even bring you closer to each other.

If you are in an existing relationship, the Nine of Swords reversed as love outcome means no longer letting yourself worry about the little things. You realize that life is short, and you don’t want to focus on things that won’t matter in the long run. Perhaps you’ve realized that you only stuck around for this long because of trauma bonding. Perhaps you were anxious on the basis of a false assumption, and now you realize you have nothing to worry about. Whatever the case may be, you and your person are determined to not allow fears to overpower your relationship. Clear and honest communication is the key.

If you are currently in separation with each other, the Nine of Swords reversed as love outcome means you’re letting go of worries over things that are out of your control. If you are separated by distance, you acknowledge the challenges of being in a long-distance relationship, but you’re making a conscious decision to not let the future worry you. Your person is also focused on being more present. If you are inquiring about an ex you’re interested in reconciling with, your ex is no longer allowing the break to worry them, even if they occasionally get triggered by memories of you. They may be working on moving on. If you’re interested in reconciling with them, you will have to convince them that the relationship will no longer bring them anxiety in the future.

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Conclusion

For love readings, the Nine of Swords represents mental anguish and despair. Much of our suffering is self-inflicted. Make sure that you are not subconsciously allowing your own limiting beliefs to hold you back from being happy. The Nine of Swords is a reminder that we can break the cycle. 

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