Nine of Wands as Reconciliation (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Nine of Wands is the card of resilience, persistence, courage, and boundaries. The card shows an injured man clutching a wand. He looks anxious and weary. He’s already been through a lot, but he is very close to reaching his goal.  

The Nine of Wands reminds us that challenges are a part of life and every relationship. Nothing is perfectly good or perfectly bad. Everything has its own challenges. Our endurance and persistence shows the strength of our character. Additionally, this card also reminds us that healthy boundaries are necessary for successful relationships. 

Upright Nine of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Nine of Wands, it means that your ex can now see your value. You’ve faced many challenges while you were together and you stood by their side and now, they feel like it’s time to pay back the gesture. They definitely want to take another shot at a relationship with you and this time around, they will be willing to make sacrifices for it to thrive.

Nine of Wands as reconciliation is a sign of resilience. You’ve been through so much together. They’ve seen you at your best and worst, and vice versa. Now, they’re willing to stand under the rain for you if that’s what it takes. Your relationship was a gem. They threw it away, but never again. They know that good things will always come for both of you and that the good moments will always make any bad experiences worth it.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel hopeful. They are looking forward to growing and experiencing more things with you, both good and bad. They’re confident that this time around things will work out. They feel like a winner and your happiness is their prize.

If you’ve recently split up, Nine of Wands means that the break up was a wake up call for them. They couldn’t see the value of your relationship, but now, they can see very clearly. They feel horrible for giving up on you and their flame for you has been reignited. They are willing to fight for you and your relationship and are very determined to win you back. Expect a call from them any minute now.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Nine of Wands means that the time you’ve spent apart has only solidified their love for you. They’ve had a change of heart and they now fully realize how much they want you in their life. They have reached a turning point and they are ready to put their foot down and fight. They want another shot with you and this time they will definitely make it worth your while. 

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Nine of Wands means that your partner is willing to compromise to make this relationship work. You mean so much to them and they deeply treasure you. They are also confident in the strength of your relationship. They know that you both can handle whatever life throws your way. This is a relationship that can last for centuries — work through whatever you’re going through right now and don’t be afraid, be honest with your partner. 

Reversed Nine of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Nine of Wands reversed, it means that your ex is feeling upset. They are insecure and paranoid. They don’t like the way the relationship ended, and towards the end, they felt like they had to pick up most of the slack. They put in a lot of effort while you gave the bare minimum. While that may not be the case, that’s what they believe. All the arguments and fights you both had is still on their mind and it’s beginning to take a toll on them. 

Nine of Wands reversed as reconciliation is a sign of things not working out as they planned. Your ex had some visions in their mind of what they wanted to happen and they put their best foot forward, but unfortunately, things still didn’t work out the way they’d hoped it would. Take a moment to think back on your relationship, there might have been some unclear boundaries that caused come misunderstandings that contributed to your ex’s insecurity. When it comes to your relationship, your ex also has suspicions and fears that there might have been a third party that jeopardized your relationship. 

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel unsatisfied. The relationship didn’t end well and they’re still hung up on you. You still occupy a corner of their mind and it’s bothering them. They are still downplaying the part they had in your breakup. They also aren’t really sure about what to do. They want to be with you but they also don’t want to try again. They want to move on but aren’t making an effort to do so. 

If you’ve recently split up, Nine of Wands reversed means that reconciliation is possible but not probable. Your ex has some other issues to attend to first but until then they will stay hung up on you. They refuse to accept the way the relationship ended and do not believe that they had a hand in it. They feel very defensive and have tried their best.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Nine of Wands reversed means that your ex needs more time. The issues that were haunting them are still there and they cannot move forward until those issues are fixed. Just know that they are still thinking about you and haven’t moved on from your relationship yet. It’s your decision now if you want to wait for them or move on too.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Nine of Wands reversed means that your partner is frustrated with the way your relationship is developing. Try and recall some fights that you had and see how you both reacted to it. Your partner feels like they already tried their best to make things work, but somehow, it still isn’t working out. It’s normal for relationships to have ups and downs, but now it’s essential that you guys realign your vision. There may have been some miscommunications or misunderstandings that are taking a toll on you. Try to settle on a compromise that works for you both and your relationship will start looking up.

Conclusion

For relationships and reconciliation, the Nine of Wands represents resilience and boundaries. Both of these qualities are necessary for any successful relationship. Even if they may not lead to the most fun conversations, they are necessary for success. The Nine of Wands reminds us that great relationships are built on the persistence of the everyday, not just big ideas or fleeting feelings of desire. 

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