Queen of Swords as Reconciliation (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Queen of Swords is the card of honesty, fairness, objectiveness, principles, independence, and perception. The card shows a queen, with a stern look on her face, sitting regally on a throne. She looks off into the distance in a profile view, as if she is pronouncing a judgment on someone. She gives off an aura of confidence. She knows what she is doing, and she knows that her pronouncements are fair. 

The Queen of Swords reminds us that honesty and fairness are important principles in building good relationships. They are just as important as empathy and emotional understanding. When you know what your values are, it will become clear to you what and who you are looking for in a romantic relationship. The Queen of Swords is a reminder that we must choose with our head as much as our heart. 

Upright Queen of Swords as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Queen of Swords, it means your ex is taking a logical approach to it. They have a very clear-cut idea where they stand and what they want from you. Whatever your ex suggests or asks of you, they’ve taken the time to think it through. Your ex is also taking your needs into consideration. If they seem distant, it is because they don’t want either of you to get hurt.

Queen of Swords as reconciliation is a sign of a relationship where there is mature and calm communication. You are transparent, honest, and forthcoming toward each other. The decisions you make as a unit are rational. Your partner is observing your actions, reactions, and words. They could fear getting hurt or hurting you. It may take some time for them to warm up to you, but they are well-intentioned.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel that a reconciliation should only happen if it’s the rational thing to do. They need to justify giving your relationship another try. Your ex values the intellectual connection they had with you. If they offer a reunion, they won’t be interested in playing mind games. They want a relationship that promises full transparency, honesty, and healthy boundaries.

If you’ve recently split up, Queen of Swords means your ex is very clear-minded about the situation. They are not going to be prone to rash or irrational behavior. They are thinking of what happened between the two of you from a logical standpoint. At this stage, they might think the breakup was justified. This is a person who is perfectly comfortable with singlehood, especially if they are an introvert. They might be open to a reconciliation in the future if they can rationalize a reason behind it.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Queen of Swords means they feel your breakup was justified, or even necessary. Your ex could also feel the way things ended was fair. They have reached a stage where they feel like they can see things objectively. This person does not take things personally, and they have a heightened sense of justice. If you wronged them, they’re no longer hurt. If they wronged you, they take accountability for their role in the breakup.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Queen of Swords means your partner will opt for the more logical direction for your relationship to go. They are interested in making the most fair decision for all parties involved. Your partner means what they say and says what they mean when discussing your future. Discuss considerations openly and honestly. They are taking a head over heart approach to deciding on the future of the relationship. If breaking up is deemed necessary or healthy, they will accept it.

Reversed Queen of Swords as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Queen of Swords reversed, it means your ex is thinking about it from a vengeful and bitter standpoint. Be cautious with any offers to reconcile, as they could draw you back into a toxic relationship. If they feel wronged by you, they expect you to apologize and make up for it endlessly. This person is also prone to cruelty and will make the relationship a “punishment” for you.

Queen of Swords reversed as reconciliation is a sign of a bitter and toxic relationship. If this person initiates reconciliation, understand that they are likely coming from a vengeful place.  They feel like the world has dealt them a bad hand, and they want the Universe to pay damages. Their bitterness and cruelty may be caused by childhood traumas or relationship experiences. It’s good that you’re an understanding and accommodating partner, but you need to set healthy boundaries.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel critical about you and your relationship. The dynamics are not the healthiest. Your ex is still clinging to old baggage and casting you as the “bad guy” in the breakup. This person is prone to playing mind games and guilt-tripping. They are unforgiving and they want to “get even” with you. A reconciliation with this person would not be about healing the relationship at all. They’re keeping score.

If you’ve recently split up, Queen of Swords reversed means they are not only not interested in a reconciliation with you, they feel bitter and vengeful. Your ex is putting all the blame on you, even if they played a role in the breakup too. Don’t take any of this person’s sharp words personally, they are likely projecting. You can have compassion for them if they’ve had past hurts, but you need to have compassion for yourself too. It would be better for your mental wellbeing for you to move on.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Queen of Swords reversed means they have moved on and they’re not interested in reuniting. However, they still carry baggage from your relationship.

They haven’t forgiven you for any slights, be it real or perceived. After all this time they still have anger and resentment over how things ended. Your ex may even take out their frustrations over you on their new partners.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Queen of Swords reversed means your person is not interested in healing the relationship. Rather than having a constructive dialogue, they’re prone to sharp words. They are more interested in “getting even” and keeping score with you. Your partner is cold. They are treating your relationship like a game and they’re determined to win. Staying in a relationship with this person could lead you to remain in a toxic dynamic.

Conclusion

For relationships and reconciliation, the Queen of Swords represents honesty, fairness, and sticking to your principles. When we think of romance, we often think of our heart. But for a relationship to work, it has to make sense with our head as well. The Queen of Swords is a reminder to stay true to your personal values and to play fair with others. 

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