Queen of Wands as Reconciliation Tarot Card Meaning Sibyl Tarot

The Queen of Wands is the card of confidence, passion, determination, charisma, and optimism. This card shows a vivacious woman sitting on a throne. She has a proud look about her. She holds a sunflower in her left hand and a wand in the other. She knows what she wants and she gets it. The black cat sitting at her feet indicates her more intuitive, shadow side. She is in touch with all aspects of herself. 

The Queen of Wands reminds us that confidence and passion will lead us to where we want in life. When we stay optimistic, good things will manifest their way to us. There is a perfect someone out there for you in the Universe. Never forget that you deserve to be treated like royalty. 

Upright Queen of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Queen of Wands, it means they are very determined to get you back. They are in a good place, and in a better position to be receptive toward a healthy relationship. Perhaps in the past your relationship didn’t work out because your ex had insecurities. They might not have been ready for commitment at that time. However, they have probably matured a lot. They still carry a torch for you. They are still very attracted to you physically, mentally, and emotionally. They are hoping to have better success with you this time around.

Queen of Wands as reconciliation is a positive sign. This card represents turning a new leaf. In the upright position, the Queen of Wands can be cheerful, vibrant, happy, passion-driven, and excited for what life has to offer. Your ex has moved past resentment. They are open to a new beginning. Your ex wants a new start. They want a clear slate with no bad feelings, just optimism and positivity. They know that letting bygones be bygones will lead to a more positive relationship dynamic. Your partner is open to feedback, and they are sincerely looking forward to changing for the better.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they still carry a torch for you. They miss your warmth and kindness. They miss your cheerfulness and your infectious self-confidence. This person has realized what a positive impact you’ve had on them. You were a source of motivation and positivity for them. While your chemistry and intimacy are great, this person is not only interested in the physical aspect of the relationship. They are also interested in your emotions and state of mind. 

If you’ve recently split up, Queen of Wands means your ex is not completely closed off to the possibility of reconciliation, but at the same time, they are not completely open to it, either. They are still processing their feelings. The Queen of Wands represents creativity and entrepreneurial energy. If your ex is artistic, they might be writing songs, poetry, and works of fiction inspired by you. This is their way of coming to terms with what happened. They have to do that before they get to the point where they would more seriously consider reconciliation. 

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Queen of Wands means this person still admires you. The spark is still there. This person may not be over you. However, they’re choosing to look at it all through a positive lens. For example: even though they were bitter and resentful when they initially broke up with you, this person might have healed and have developed a sense of humor about what happened to them. If you’re interested in reconciliation, just ask. They will communicate openly and bluntly about their feelings.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, the Queen of Wands drawn upright is a sign that you will need to compromise to stay together. Your partner may have had some heated arguments with you, but they’re not coming from a malicious place. This person is trying to get the best outcome possible for the two of you. Your partner cares about your happiness and wellbeing, but they are definitely not a pushover. This is an independent energy that doesn’t tolerate possessiveness or jealousy. If this is an issue between the two of you, there will need to be compromise.

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Reversed Queen of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Queen of Wands reversed, it means they have mixed feelings. Your ex could be feeling both obsessed yet enraged by you. They may not be in the healthiest place right now. This person could be stalking you online if you have a social media presence. In their minds, they are constantly in competition with others for you, partners both real and imagined. Note that while the upright Queen of Wands is intuitive, in the reverse, this particular queen can be a bit paranoid.

Queen of Wands reversed as reconciliation may indicate emotional manipulation, unhealthy dynamics, passive-aggressiveness, temper tantrums, or aggression. This is also the card that represents possessiveness and jealousy. It cautions you to look at this person’s motives for reconciliation. Are they coming back because they truly love you? Or are they coming back because they simply don’t want to see you with anybody else? Even as this person is jealous and possessive of you, they may be cheating. It’s all about them and their needs in this relationship.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel angry and obsessive. In some cases, this ex will resort to emotional manipulation to get you back. You might find their communication a little bit pushy or aggressive. If your person is a hot-tempered person, they’re easily triggered by things that remind them of you. This person is more interested in having you as a possession rather than a partner. They’re less concerned about their partner’s feelings. They mainly focus on getting what they want from you. In the reverse, this person may be unable to distinguish between their intuition and paranoia, leading to false accusations.

If you’ve recently split up, Queen of Wands reversed suggests giving this person space to process the break up. Your ex is not in the best of moods, and they may lash out in a verbally aggressive manner. It would be best to give them some time and space. This will allow them to be more receptive when the two of you talk. They may be stalking you on social media out of insecurity. They are terrified that you’ve moved on with somebody else. Beware of them using emotionally manipulative tactics to get you back. 

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Queen of Wands reversed means you still linger in their thoughts. They might miss the physical intimacy between you, but their attraction to you is mostly surface level. Be careful of offers of reconciliation with a self-serving agenda. Your ex may be prone to love bombing. Where the Queen of Wands in the upright might have a sense of humor about your past together, in the reverse, she embodies the opposite energy of bitterness. Your ex may make you into an enemy. They might badmouth you behind your back.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, the Queen of Wands reversed means this person may be too dependent on you in some type of way. It could be financially, emotionally, or physically. Your partner may be reluctant to leave you, especially if you share mutual friends. If co-parenting is an issue, this topic should be prioritized. Your person is trying to keep the relationship intact for self-serving reasons since they have something to gain. Focus on your own emotional wellbeing and happiness.

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For relationships and reconciliation, the Queen of Wands represents confidence, optimism, and passion. Where everyone else wants to be, you already are. The Queen of Wands is a mature woman. She has a feeling of wholeness, harmony, and belonging about her. This is where a relationship should be in the long term. 

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