Temperance as Love Outcome (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

Temperance is the card of moderation, balance, harmony, and patience. An angel stands, with one foot in the water and the other foot firmly planted on land. The angel pours water between two cups, symbolizing the flow and alchemy of life. 

Temperance reminds us that we must avoid going to extremes. We are often best served by taking a moderate, patient, and balanced view towards life. Temperance reminds us that caution, prudence, and thoughtfulness have their place. They can often bring more reward in the long term than a passionate outburst based only on a whim. To maintain harmonious relationships, working together to find compromise is often necessary. 

Upright Temperance as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw Temperance, that means that your person really enjoys your calming presence. They feel harmonious and find that you bring them peace. Astrologically associated with Sagittarius, the Temperance card is a very high-vibrational card. It’s a high-minded card that represents harmony and balance. Drawing this card would indicate a well-balanced relationship: low on the drama, high on the vibrations.

Temperance as love outcome is a sign of a healthy kind of love. You and your person love with compassion and patience. You’re not driven by obsession, need for control, codependency, or possessiveness. This is the vibe of the person who says, “if you love them set them free, if it’s meant to be, it will be.” If you’ve always wanted someone to grow old with, you’ve drawn the right card and met the right person. Your person is extremely grateful to have you in their life.

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, Temperance as love outcome means this person feels you’re a good match for them. However, it also advises to be patient and let the relationship unfold naturally. This is a major “divine timing” card. Being pushy or rushing the relationship will not help you in the long run. In fact, rushing it might just backfire. Your person enjoys the dynamic they have with you. They feel you’re easy and pleasant to communicate with. They appreciate how attentive and considerate you are to their needs and not just about what you need. This has excellent potential if you are looking to begin a long-term relationship.

If you are in a new relationship, Temperance as love outcome means smooth sailing ahead.

Your person values moderation, balance, and compromise – finding the “middle path”.

They may have had some negative and dramatic relationships in the past. They’ve learned from those failed relationships and all they want now is a peaceful connection. They’re attracted to your prudence, thoughtfulness, and patience. Your person especially appreciates your gentle ways and calming energy.

If you are in an existing relationship, Temperance as love outcome means contentment. The vibe your relationship has is a loyal pair growing old gracefully together. Who wouldn’t want that? You’ve reached that level of comfort where you can spend all day in a comfortable silence. This relationship survives off the patience, moderation, empathy, and compassion that both of you contribute to the relationship. That doesn’t mean disagreements and conflict never happens. However, your willingness to accommodate and care for each others’ needs benefits your relationship considerably.

If you are currently in separation with each other, Temperance as love outcome means your person is pretty ‘Zen’ about the situation. If you’re separated by distance, even though they love you, they’re not letting the distance get to them. They’re dealing with any logistical or financial constraints with patience. Your partner is taking actions one step at a time, as they should. If you’re inquiring about an ex, your ex has accepted the end of your relationship. They’ve rebalanced their emotions – even if they reacted in the extremes when it happened. This bodes well if you’re hoping for a reconciliation. They’ve calmed down and healed to the point where you can rebuild your connection in a healthy, constructive manner. Make sure that you’re equally healed.

Reversed Temperance as Love Outcome

If you are asking about what is the outcome of a relationship, and you draw Temperance reversed, that means that there is disharmony that needs to be addressed. If your person has anger issues, perhaps seeking help to manage their emotions could be helpful. You have every right to ask your partner to seek help. However, you can only help people who want to get help. If the situation seems impossible, you’re allowed to walk away. Not only that, you should walk away when the relationship starts feeling abusive. Stay safe.

Temperance reversed as love outcome is a sign of internal imbalance in a relationship. There are unresolved issues seeping into the relationship dynamic. Are there issues with your workplaces or social environments that you’re taking out on each other? Our partners should be our safe havens from the world. Sure, we want to be our partner’s confidant and best friend, but not someone to take out their frustrations on. Know when to walk away, move on, and find peace and harmony elsewhere.

If you are wondering about a potential relationship, Temperance reversed as love outcome means there are some loose ends to tie up before this relationship can meet its full potential. It does have potential, but forcing it will do the relationship more harm than good. This person (or you) could have some healing to do. This card is astrologically associated with Sagittarius, ruled by Jupiter, the planet of luck and expansion. It would be hard to grow a relationship until both of you heal your unresolved issues. Don’t rush it.

If you are in a new relationship, Temperance reversed as love outcome means your person could be indecisive about how to proceed. They know the wise thing to do is to take their time, but they also have a fear of missing out. They could worry that you’ll end up with someone else if they don’t hurry up. But they’re emotionally unready and you don’t know each other that well yet. This card advises you to give your person time and space to prepare themselves mentally.

If you are in an existing relationship, Temperance reversed as love outcome means a lack of stability in your relationship. You could feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells. Your person could seem both temperamental and cold, and this is understandably confusing. Ask yourself if the relationship has gotten abusive? Are you constantly on edge? Do you feel like their never-ending demands seem like moving goalposts that you can’t keep up with? A healthy relationship should never feel like that. It should balance you out and bring out the best in you.

If you are currently in separation with each other, Temperance reversed as love outcome means you or your person could be constantly changing their minds. If you’re separated by distance, inconsistency could be an issue. Your person could decide that they want to relocate to be near you one day, excite you, only to disappoint you by changing their mind a day later. If you are inquiring about an ex, your ex can’t make up their mind about you. One minute they are “so done” and “over you,” the next minute they wish they could get you back and spend the rest of their days with you. If you’re interested in reconciling, maybe give them time to recenter and ground themselves. Now would not be a good time as emotions are still running high and their emotions are apt to swiftly change.

Conclusion

For love readings, Temperance reveals the power of patience, compassion, and understanding. When we try to force relationships and people to go the way we want, it can often implode in our face. Temperance urges us to embrace patience, moderation, compromise, diplomacy, and the middle path. When we lean into these qualities, we build trust. Over time, trust solidifies into a rock-solid foundation for a great relationship. 

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