Ten of Wands as Reconciliation (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Ten of Wands is the card of burden, responsibility, obligation, duty, stress, and burnout. The card depicts a man carrying a large bundle of sticks. His back is bent by the weight of the sticks. He is weighed down by the heavy load. However, he is almost at his destination. He will soon be able to release the burden that he is bearing.  

The Ten of Wands reminds us that life does not come without corresponding baggage and responsibility. Sometimes, it’s when we feel most burned out that we are nearest to the end of a cycle. The Ten of Wands urges us to look at whether or not the burdens we carry are adding net positive value to our lives. Duty and obligation can be for the greater good, or it can be at our own detriment. 

Upright Ten of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Ten of Wands, it means that your ex is feeling weighed down by your breakup. They are stressed out and burdened. This person thinks that love is a burden to carry around rather than something liberating. They are also afraid to ask for help. They are highly independent but too much independence can also mean that they struggle to lean on others for help when they really need it. 

Ten of Wands as reconciliation is a sign of guilt. They are still carrying around a lot of emotional baggage from their past, not just from your relationship and it’s weighing them down. They know that there are things they can’t let go of but they don’t really know what to do about them. Your ex struggles to properly care for themselves. They struggle to share their burdens with others and it’s going to slowly pull them under if they continue to keep things to themselves. 

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel burnt out. They are tired of having to lug around all this emotional baggage. They are tired and in dire need of a confidant. Your relationship meant a lot to them but it also hurt them greatly. They are still holding onto all that hurt and refuse to let it and you go. However, they aren’t well enough to pursue you. Reconciliation is definitely possible given the fact they don’t want to let you go, however, true reconciliation is only possible if they can improve themself. They need to put in a lot of work on themself and until they can promise to change in the future, don’t expect a happy reconciliation.

If you’ve recently split up, Ten of Wands means that your ex still struggles to see the part they played in your relationship. Your relationship ending was just an inconvenience for them because they’ll have to carry that hurt around with them now. They need to learn to open up to others and share the burden so that they can breathe. Give your ex some more time to work on themselves before accepting them back into your life because if you accept them back before they change, it will just bring more hurt for you both.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Ten of Wands means they still haven’t unpacked all of their baggage. There are bigger things on their plate right now that they have to attend to. Reconciliation is definitely on their mind and they want to push through with it, but beware because they might continue to bring in all their emotional baggage and burden you both.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Ten of Wands means that you need to let your partner know that you are there for them. They really, really need someone who will help them work through their issues and lighten their load. Be there for them and save them from themselves. Your partner just needs a change in perspective — they need to see things from your eyes for once. Sit down and have a nice deep talk together and open up about the things you both need and what the other can do to help fulfill those needs.  

Reversed Ten of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw the Ten of Wands reversed, it means they feel alone. They are constantly doing everything on their own and even though it’s becoming too much for them, they refuse to ask for help. They are internalizing a lot of their issues and bottling them up because they don’t want to approach others for help.

Additionally, this also means that your ex is probably at their turning point. They are so close to just saying “enough!” and letting go of everything. They are tired of having to constantly carry all this weight on their shoulders and are finally reaching the point where they just set the weight down. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, for your ex, this is great because it means liberation, but as reconciliation means that it is going to be unlikely because your relationship is going to be one of the things they will let go of.

Ten of Wands reversed as reconciliation is a sign of means that they are ready to move on. They no longer want to hold onto these burdens. They appreciate you and your relationship and they fondly remember all the good times you have. They will always treasure you and your relationship. But, they are ready to let go of it as well. It’s not that they no longer care about you and want to forget you, but rather, they want to let go of the bad and move forward with their life. 

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel liberated. They are looking forward to the future where they no longer have all this baggage that’s holding them back. They’ve spent a good amount of time appreciating the ups and downs of your relationship and no longer harbor any hard feelings, if they had any. 

If you’ve recently split up, Ten of Wands reversed means that your ex was able to quickly come into terms with everything. They are looking forward to the future even if you are no longer in it. Reconciliation is very unlikely to happen but don’t feel sad because this is a good thing for your ex, instead, be happy for them and move on along with them.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Ten of Wands reversed means that your ex is doing way better now — hopefully, you are too. Don’t wait for reconciliation because chances are that it isn’t going to happen. Your ex has moved on to the next chapter of their life. It’s always going to be possible that your paths will collide again, but it isn’t happening right now.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Ten of Wands reversed means that your partner has been internalizing a lot of things. Try to get them comfortable and allow them to share the burden with you. After all, you’re in a relationship and that means that you’re in this together. Let them know that there’s nothing to be afraid of and that you won’t feel burdened by them. Doing this will bridge the distance that’s been forming between you two and ultimately make your relationship stronger in the long run.

Conclusion

For relationships and reconciliation, the Ten of Wands represents burdens and obligations. This can be viewed both positively and negatively, depending on the context. Too much can weigh us down. But without any duty, we are not tightly bound to the people we love. The Ten of Wands reminds us that there is good and bad in the baggage we carry. Ultimately, we have to judge whether or not it is for our own greater good. 

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