Three of Wands as Reconciliation Tarot Card Meaning Sibyl Tarot

The Three of Wands is the card of confidence, momentum, growth, and future prospects. The card depicts a man standing on the edge of a cliff, looking over the ocean and the mountains. So much is ahead of him, and he knows it. He is looking forward to the future. He is committed, and he is confident that his commitment is good and will bring abundance into his life.

The Three of Wands reminds us that true commitment is possible. Your twin flame is out there. The person who you are meant to be with will commit to you, no questions asked. They will see the value in doing so, and they won’t hesitate. Remember what you deserve in love because you deserve nothing but the best.

Upright Three of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Three of Wands, it means your ex already has a clear roadmap to follow to make reconciliation a reality. Your person likely has a clear idea of what they intend to say, how they’ll say it, and how they’ll approach you. They’re optimistic, self-assured, and see great potential in what you can achieve together. They’ve seen the bigger picture, recognized what went wrong in the past, and they know exactly how they plan to resolve things.

Three of Wands as reconciliation is a positive sign of maturity on both sides. Your ex sees your relationship from a bird’s-eye view, sees things from your viewpoint, and intends to accommodate your needs. Your ex is excited to collaborate with you on rebuilding your relationship. Your person takes a positive outlook. And given that this card precedes the Four of Wands, which is all about a relationship’s foundation, it’s safe to assume that the person is interested in building a stronger foundation with you. The Three of Wands may also indicate travel.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel optimistic that you two can work things out. They believe the two of you have potential to grow together. If they were previously more closed off, they are more receptive this time around. If you are not currently in communication with your ex, a blockage has been removed that you were not aware of. For example, if distance was an issue, your person may have found a way to work around that. They may also be expecting to hear from you.

If you’ve recently split up, Three of Wands means your person is assessing their life path without you in their future. On the one hand, they don’t quite have a vision of what their lives would look like without you. On the other hand, since this was a recent breakup, they may not necessarily be ready to reconcile just yet. They are neither optimistic nor pessimistic. They are not completely closed off, but also not they are not quite ready yet.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Three of Wands means your ex is thinking about you often. They see things in a different light now, likely because they have matured a lot since the two of you broke up. They are hopeful that you will cross paths again at some point. They have weighed the pros and cons of another try, and they are open to reconciling. They are ready to talk, although you may have to make the first move.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Three of Wands advises you to take a step back and see the situation from the other person’s viewpoint. Perhaps one or both of you has tunnel vision about what they want and are unable to put themselves in the other person’s shoes. In general, this is a positive card indicating optimism and a bright future. 

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Reversed Three of Wands as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Three of Wands reversed, it means you need to be mindful that somebody in this relationship could have avoidant tendencies. While in the upright this card can indicate seeing things from a bird’s-eye view, in the reverse it could signify a person with their head in the sand. This person might approach reconciliation as “going through the motions” on autopilot while refusing to address issues that require resolving for the relationship to actually work in the future.

Three of Wands reversed as reconciliation is a sign of lacking a clear vision of the direction of the relationship. As far as the relationship energy itself, this card feels more like being a “rebound” than a proper reconciliation. There’s no guarantee this person will give you a high level of commitment. This person may not even know what they want in their lives at this stage of their life. Unlike the upright Three of Wands which may indicate maturing, in the reverse your ex may not have changed much.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel unsure and they’re not the most optimistic. They may feel quite passionately about you, but they’re not too excited about all the hoops they know they will have to jump through to make the relationship work. If this person feels distant to you, it could be due to their commitment anxiety. They could be questioning whether or not you’re right for each other. If there was conflict or miscommunication between you in the past, this person feels that they don’t know how to resolve these differences.

If you’ve recently split up, Three of Wands reversed means your ex is stuck in limbo. They are certainly not in the headspace to consider reconciliation at this time. But at the same time,  they’re not moving forward with any new relationships. They are not in a place where they feel comfortable making any leap of faith at all. Their main focus is just picking up the pieces of their life and maintaining some level of stability in their daily routine, rather than thinking that far into the future.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Three of Wands reversed means your ex has accepted the reality of your separation and views you as a part of the past. This person does not consider reconciliation as a possibility. If you wish to reconcile with this person, you will have to make the first move. And your moves will have to be thoroughly planned. Reconciliation may require some reasoning and convincing. A light-hearted approach would be best. Expecting a serious long-term commitment with this person may not be realistic at this time.

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Three of Wands reversed is an indication of misaligned values, goals, and plans within the relationship. Your person cannot envision a future without you, at the same time the two of you cannot seem to get on the same page. One or both of you seem to only see the ‘potential’ when viewed from your own set of values. Meanwhile, it seems as though neither of you are willing to compromise, and neither of you are willing to put yourself in each other’s shoes.

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For relationships and reconciliation, the Three of Wands represents growth potential, commitment, and the future. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who is fully committed to you. There is no card more enthusiastic about this than the Three of Wands. Plan to expand and it will be yours.

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