Tower as Reconciliation Tarot Card Meaning Sibyl Tarot

The Tower is the card of transformative change, revelation, and awakening. The Tower sits on top of a jagged mountain. Lightning strikes, burning the Tower down. Two people leap from the windows, headfirst. This is a scene of chaos and destruction. 

The Tower reminds us that sudden and massive change is a part of life. Change is here to throw our lives into upheaval, and its chaos will shake us to our very core. That being said, it is necessary to our growth, and we cannot fight it. We often cannot see it at the time, but looking back, these are the moments that make us. 

Upright Tower as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how someone feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Tower, it means that they’ve had a sudden realization that they need you in their life. They thought the grass was greener on the other side, but they discovered that it wasn’t. They realized that they left the best thing behind them! By being with you, their view on life shifted, and they don’t want to be without you.

Tower as reconciliation is a sign of previously suppressed emotions breaking through. Due to this, your relationship is about to undergo a life-changing transformation. Reconciliation is certainly a possibility. It is entirely up to the two of you whether to ignore it or fully embrace it. If you use these emotions to communicate your needs honestly, it can positively and constructively alter your relationship forever. 

When your person thinks about reconciliation with you, they believe significant changes are on the horizon. If your relationship has a solid foundation, this could be a great sign that you’re ready to take it to the next level. However, if your relationship is already on the verge of failing, the need for additional commitment will only hasten its downfall. The Tower frequently brings painful truth and change. Though it may be difficult at first, it’s better to face the truth early on.

If you’ve recently split up, Tower indicates that reconciliation is almost certain because this person believes you awaken the giant within them. You’ve brought new, optimistic, and life-changing ideas into their life. The Tower can also be interpreted as a phallic symbol. If this is the case, this person has a strong sexual attraction to you. You’ll be hearing from them soon.

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Tower means that reconciliation is certainly possible because your relationship has radically changed your ex. It caused your ex to rethink themselves and their goals in life. They thought that the grass was greener on the other side, but it was not. They’ve realized that they’ve made a terrible mistake. 

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Tower means that this person harbors explosive feelings for you, and that change is coming. Effective communication is always the key to a successful reconciliation. For the better or for the worse, change is inevitable in any relationship. Whatever your partner reveals to you will shift your relationship forever. You must pay attention to your intuition and to yourself. You probably already have a sense of what’s to come.

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Reversed Tower as Reconciliation

If you are asking about how your ex feels about reconciling with you, and you draw Tower reversed, it means that this person is resistant to looking backwards and making the right changes in order to reconcile. They are unwilling to move forward or backward because they are afraid of the unknown. Because they are refusing to adapt, a true, healthy reconciliation is not likely. 

Tower reversed as reconciliation is a sign of building hostility toward the idea of getting back together. Your communication was not the best when you were in the relationship, and your ex still resents how things ended. Minor irritations can snowball into major resentments, after all. The Tower reversed is a warning that sometimes, there is just too much baggage there to successfully look back.

When your ex thinks about reconciliation with you, they feel resistant to change, including doing what it takes to have a successful reconciliation. Your ex hates the idea of change being forced on them, and they’ve dug in their heels into the ground. Your ex doesn’t feel stable at the moment, and they are strongly opposed to more major changes. Your ex is scared of their feelings and also of the consequences. Your ex will do everything to prevent this transformation. You will receive no response until they can truly embrace change.

If you’ve recently split up, Tower reversed means that a possible reconciliation is unlikely due to your ex’s refusal to make major changes and their fear to move ahead with you right now. Though you may be a truly transformative and positive presence in their life, your ex is afraid and not currently receptive to the potential transitions in your relationship. They are also afraid of their feelings for you. 

If you’ve been in separation for a while, Tower reversed means that they consider reconciliation to be too risky given all of the change that they are experiencing in their life currently. They are frustrated, because your breakup has cost them a lot. They don’t know if they can go back and relive it again. Sure, things may work out, but what if they don’t?

If the two of you are still considering whether or not you should break up, Tower reversed signifies dissatisfaction with the relationship and resistance to change. They may not want to break up, but they’re not ready to address the issues in your relationship either. Your partner may be harboring resentment over small things, but not telling you about it, because they are afraid to bring it up. Though it may not seem like a big deal at first, these minor issues can quickly escalate into major problems over time. You will need to be on the same page in order to prevent larger problems in the future.    

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For relationships and reconciliation, the Tower reveals the power of rapid, transformative change. With every ending comes a new beginning. No matter how much we resist change, it will come–so it is better to embrace it. Although you may go through extremely trying times, know that they will pass and eventually bring something better. 

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