Ten of Wands as How Someone Sees You (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Ten of Wands is the card of burden, responsibility, obligation, duty, stress, and burnout. The card depicts a man carrying a large bundle of sticks. His back is bent by the weight of the sticks. He is weighed down by the heavy load. However, he is almost at his destination. He will soon be able to release the burden that he is bearing.  

The Ten of Wands reminds us that life does not come without corresponding baggage and responsibility. Sometimes, it’s when we feel most burned out that we are nearest to the end of a cycle. The Ten of Wands urges us to look at whether or not the burdens we carry are adding net positive value to our lives. Duty and obligation can be for the greater good, or it can be at our own detriment. 

Upright Ten of Wands as How Someone Sees You

If you are asking about how someone sees you, and you draw the Ten of Wands, that means this person sees you as somewhat of a burden. Love places some form of restraint on their life. Relationships are great, but they also require a lot of work. This stresses the person out and causes them to see you as a stressor in their life. They have feelings for you, but they may want to distance themselves or take a breather because they feel overwhelmed. 

The Ten of Wands means that they see you as someone that cannot help them. They feel guilty that they see you as a burden. They want things to be perfect. They desire the impossible. They see you as someone that cannot help them in their struggle because they think you do not deserve that obligation. They rather internalize all of the stress and tension so it does not reach you.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Ten of Wands is a sign that they see you as an expense in the future. Past relationships greatly weigh them down, and they enjoy the single life. They are not ready to embark on a new love adventure. They are interested in you, but the time is not right to start a relationship.

For existing relationships, the Ten of Wands means that they see you as someone that cannot lighten their path. They see you as an addition to their obligations over the course of the relationship. Sometimes dealing with you is like a chore to them. Long term relationships often do this to people, especially if they are still young and sporadic. Understand and communicate with your partner to figure out why they see you this way.

If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Ten of Wands shows that they see you as someone that they must work hard for to become interested again. This means they are not ready or thinking about reconciliation. The relationship weighed on them, and the break up tore them apart even more. This puts them in a state of their life where restarting a relationship is dangerous for both parties.

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Ten of Wands means that they see you as another stressor on their mind to think about marriage. They see it as a task to complete and get out of the way rather than celebrate. Assure them that marriage should be the most special and exciting thing in life, so you can wait until they are ready. Make sure they see marriage as joyful and exciting before proposing.

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Reversed Ten of Wands as How Someone Sees You

If you are asking about how someone sees you, and you draw the Ten of Wands reversed, that means this person sees you as unhelpful. They see you this way but do not know how to ask for help. They are scared, stressed, and lost in your connection. They see you as someone who cannot help them but it is not your fault. They feel constrained and heavy.

The Ten of Wands reversed means that they see you as something they need to escape from. The burden may be too heavy to carry any longer. This makes them want to escape, and they may place the blame of their struggles on you. They can no longer live on how they do, and they see you as someone in connection to their suffering.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Ten of Wands reversed is a sign that they see you as a burden to carry. They hesitate to reveal these feelings to you. They do not see it as it is in relationships where you are someone to share their burdens with, not bundle them up. This makes the beginning of the relationship very difficult for both of you. They are used to being single which makes a relationship seem too hard for them.

For existing relationships, the Ten of Wands reversed means that they see you as someone that they want to withhold their stressful life from. They do not want to reveal their stressors to you because they see you as someone who would be bothered by them. Assure them that this is not the case, and you are in a relationship which means that you share your burdens.

If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Ten of Wands reversed shows that they see you as someone of their past. They have decided to move on. They no longer think about the relationship although it was significant in their journey of life. You helped them a lot, but they are not considering reconciliation. They see you as someone that they think would be more beneficial to let go rather than hold on. 

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Ten of Wands reversed means that they see you as someone they cannot share their feelings with. They see you as someone that they cannot form a deep enough bond with for marriage. Your relationship needs a little work before marriage can be considered. Vocalize your opinions and get on the same page as your partner if life-long commitment is something you truly want.

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Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Ten of Wands represents burdens and obligations. This can be viewed both positively and negatively, depending on the context. Too much can weigh us down. But without any duty, we are not tightly bound to the people we love. The Ten of Wands reminds us that there is good and bad in the baggage we carry. Ultimately, we have to judge whether or not it is for our own greater good. 

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