Ten of Wands as Love Advice (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Ten of Wands is the card of burden, responsibility, obligation, duty, stress, and burnout. The card depicts a man carrying a large bundle of sticks. His back is bent by the weight of the sticks. He is weighed down by the heavy load. However, he is almost at his destination. He will soon be able to release the burden that he is bearing.  

The Ten of Wands reminds us that life does not come without corresponding baggage and responsibility. Sometimes, it’s when we feel most burned out that we are nearest to the end of a cycle. The Ten of Wands urges us to look at whether or not the burdens we carry are adding net positive value to our lives. Duty and obligation can be for the greater good, or it can be at our own detriment. 

Upright Ten of Wands as Love Advice

If you are asking about love advice, and you draw the Ten of Wands, that means that you are advised to not push at this person too much. This person is feeling overwhelmed by pressure to fulfill their duties and responsibilities. Instead of finding solace in the arms of another, they feel burdened with even more stress when it comes to love.

For love, the Ten of Wands as advice means that you should take on the role of a caregiver over a lover. This person is trying to take on more than they can handle alone, burying their emotions under a mountain of stress. Even though seeking help might feel like admitting defeat and letting go of past struggles could seem impossible, self-care should still be the priority. By finding comfort in solitude it may become easier for this person to confront what’s really weighing them down, guilt or otherwise, with renewed perspective and strength.

For singles, the Ten of Wands as love advice means that you need to allow your person to deal with their inner problems first. They aren’t ready to open up their heart and become vulnerable with someone else right now. Give them the space they need and if you really want to stay by their side, then do so but only as a supporter. Avoid putting them in uncomfortable situations and just be there for them in any way that you can.

For new and potential relationships, the Ten of Wands as love advice means Everyone has a past that marks the present, but if we don’t let go of our baggage it can hinder us from embracing new relationships. We cannot take it personally or think less of ourselves — if someone is not ready for a relationship now then perhaps the timing just isn’t there yet.

For existing relationships, the Ten of Wands as advice means that they see you as someone they want to lean on, but are afraid to do so. This person is under an immense amount of pressure, and it’s beginning to take a toll. They need some reinforcement that you’re there for them — not just as someone who supports unconditional love, but also offers an incredibly helpful shoulder when times are tough. It can be easy to forget how important having positive relationships in our lives is, remind your partner that together, things will always look brighter than if they try facing all these obligations by themselves.

If you are asking about reconciliation with an ex, the Ten of Wands as love advice shows that this may be a risky path to take. Your ex is unable to move on from the relationship, and they remain bogged down by the past. Despite wanting you back in their life, they haven’t reflected upon what went wrong or how it can be fixed — reconciliation isn’t possible without this honest assessment of themselves first. 

Reversed Ten of Wands as Love Advice

If you are asking about love advice, and you draw the Ten of Wands reversed, that means that you are advised to put in some more effort. This person is trying to bear a heavy load on their own. It can be hard to open up and share our struggles with others, but this courage gives us access to an invaluable resource — support from loved ones who want what’s best for us. Taking that first step may require bravery, but it could also take away deep-rooted pain.

For love, the Ten of Wands reversed as advice means that you should let go of the past. After struggling for far too long, you are now ready to move on and leave the worries of your past behind. Taking a breath of fresh air, you can finally find peace by releasing yourself from the heavy load that’s been weighing you down.

For singles, the Ten of Wands reversed as love advice means that you need to learn to share your burdens with others. And similarly, you must also help others with their own burdens. Practice more trust with the people around you. The person that’s caught your eye is ready to learn new things from you, and maybe this could be one of those things. Become each other’s crutch and help each other grow more. 

For new and potential relationships, the Ten of Wands reversed as love advice means that someone is feeling the unease and weight of life burdens, but not wanting to share them with anyone. However, this person needs to remember the wonderful benefits relationships bring — like having somebody reliable by your side when things get tough or past baggage brought into it starts appearing. Now they are ready for your future together – showing they have taken an important step in letting go of what no longer serves them and trusting you as their partner in everything!

For existing relationships, the Ten of Wands reversed as advice means that they see you as someone they don’t want to stress out and burden. Relationships are a two-way street, and it’s better to be honest about your needs than keep silent. If your partner has been dealing with their pain privately rather than opening up to you, now is the perfect time for both of you to have a heart-to-heart conversation. Doing so can help turn any distance into closeness as each of you find ways to support one another.

If you are asking about reconciliation with an ex, the Ten of Wands reversed as love advice shows that you need to move on. Moving on can be tough, but your ex has come to the conclusion that it’s time for them to say goodbye and part ways with you. It doesn’t mean they don’t care anymore, just that now more so than ever in life, looking toward what’s ahead rather than dwelling on the past has become of great importance. Asking about reconciliation might not lead you down the path you’d like right away. However, all good things take some patience.

Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Ten of Wands represents burdens and obligations. This can be viewed both positively and negatively, depending on the context. Too much can weigh us down. But without any duty, we are not tightly bound to the people we love. The Ten of Wands reminds us that there is good and bad in the baggage we carry. Ultimately, we have to judge whether or not it is for our own greater good. 

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