Tower as How Someone Sees You (Upright & Reversed) Tarot Card Meaning

The Tower is the card of transformative change, revelation, and awakening. The Tower sits on top of a jagged mountain. Lightning strikes, burning the Tower down. Two people leap from the windows, headfirst. This is a scene of chaos and destruction. 

The Tower reminds us that sudden and massive change is a part of life. Change is here to throw our lives into upheaval, and its chaos will shake us to our very core. That being said, it is necessary to our growth, and we cannot fight it. We often cannot see it at the time, but looking back, these are the moments that make us. 

Upright Tower as How Someone Sees You

If you are asking about how someone sees you, and you draw the Tower, that means this person sees you as a changing force in their life. They appreciate you because of how you have changed their life. They see you as someone who drives them to achieve their goals and comforts them when they need it. They see you as a foundation for transformation, awakening, and outlook in their life.

The Tower means that they see you as someone they have not fully revealed themselves to. They have some rather intense feelings about you that have not yet been revealed. This means they see you as someone they will be talking to well into the future. They see you as someone they do not want to ruin things with. This is why they are waiting for the right time to reveal their passion and introduce exceptional change in your connection.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Tower is a sign that they see you as someone that can change their life. They see you as someone who can give them hope for love. If they have had past disappointments in relationships, they see you as something fresh. They do not know if it will work out, but they would rather try a relationship with you than be single.

For existing relationships, the Tower means that they see you as unlimited potential. They have immense feelings of love for you that have yet to be revealed. You most likely already have a hint about this. They see you as someone they can flirt with, but they also still get nervous around. The Tower card is a strong sign for existing relationships.

If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Tower shows that they see you as that changed their life and feelings about love. How they see connections is completely different than before you dated. This could be a bad or a good thing. Depending on how your relationship went, they may still see you as someone they potentially want to be with. Maybe you both only needed a short break, and reconnection is on the horizon.

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Tower means that they see you as a sign of great incoming change. THis could mean marriage is next in your relationship. That big change they see could be a proposal or expected proposal. However, it could also be the opposite, because the Tower card is all about truth and real change.

Reversed Tower as How Someone Sees You

If you are asking about how someone sees you, and you draw the Tower reversed, that means this person sees you as someone they urge to resist. They see you as a signal of change that is imminent, but they do not want it. They want to stand out in the relationship, but they see you as the opposite. This could cause division in the relationship. Adapting to the circumstances could hold the relationship together despite how they see you.

The Tower reversed means that they see you as someone they are slowly growing apart from. Each day, their passion decays. They see you as distant and lacking communication. Without prompt communication and intent to fix your resentments, you will continue to grow apart until the relationship collapses.

For singles and those embarking on new relationships, the Tower reversed is a sign that they see you as someone they do not want to move forward with just yet. They reject all forms of change in their life, and starting a relationship is one of them. They incline themselves to stand out and resist people who want to come into their life. There is still hope, but you have to wait until they are ready.

For existing relationships, the Tower reversed means that they see you as someone who remains quiet and does not share their feelings. The connection from the beginning of the relationship is now lacking. You have both gone cold. You must be honest with each other about whatever it is that bothers you. If not, then the relationship will only become colder.

If you are asking about an ex’s intentions, the Tower reversed shows that they see you as someone that damaged them. The relationship changed them for the worse and caused mass upheaval in their life. They are not thinking about reuniting with you. You both cannot change why and how the relationship ended, and how you now see each other. It was neither person’s sole fault, but moving on is the best decision.

In the context of whether or not a relationship is headed for commitment, engagement, or marriage, the Tower reversed means that they see you as someone they cannot commit to yet. Marriage is a monumental moment of change in life, and the reversed Tower signifies resistance to change. They do not see you as someone they can be sure of when it comes to spending the rest of their life with. There is hope for the future, but for now, marriage is not the best change in the relationship.

Conclusion

For relationships and feelings, the Tower reveals the power of rapid, transformative change. With every ending comes a new beginning. No matter how much we resist change, it will come–so it is better to embrace it. Although you may go through extremely trying times, know that they will pass and eventually bring something better. 

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